Monday 30 December 2013

Second Date With a Ladyboy

I'm pretty ruthless when it comes to dating. If I don't like my date, then I'll cut off all contact after the first date. Clingy girls (and ladyboys for that matter) are to be avoided at all costs.

But the first ladyboy I'd ever dated was hot, and I was very eager to meet her again!

So for the second date we met at the same shopping mall, and "did" lunch.

Again, nobody cared less about a foreigner being seen around town with a young ladyboy by his side.

This however wasn't my experience when I subsequently dated an Asian woman who was clearly a "9" and pretty damned close to a "10". I learnt from dating her that average man walking around with a woman who is hot enough to be a model is VERY interesting. Especially with other females, who I guess must wonder what sort of magnetism, charm or money (most likely money) I possess in order to attract a female of that quality.

Anyway, back to ladyboy date #2...

After lunch we went for a walk around one of Bangkok's parks. We sat for a while, and I felt a rush of those relaxing hormones that you get when you're in the company of someone you really like being with.

It was nice to sit and just watch the world go by. Especially as my date didn't speak much English. Strangely she didn't speak much Thailish either. But I took this as a good sign, since Bangkok ladies (and ladyboys) often learn Thailish from hanging around in beer bars...

So that was a very nice afternoon spent in the company of an exotic and interesting ladyboy. Roll on date #3...

Saturday 28 December 2013

Finding Ladyboys For Longer Term Relationships

Many Thai and Philippines ladyboys work as hookers.

But what if you want a relationship with a ladyboy that lasts more than 2 hours?

It IS possible to find ladyboys who are interested in going on dates and having boyfriends. But it's hard work.

First of all, not many dating sites are ladyboy friendly. So try a ladyboy friendly dating site like Ladyboy Kisses or Asian Love Connections. Dating sites like Thai Love Links and Filipino Cupid are popular and have a few ladyboy members. But on these sites there's no way of choosing just to see ladyboy profiles. To see the ladyboys who have registered as men, you need to allow other guys to see your profile. And when I was a Thai Love Links member that meant I had to put up with getting hit on by guys. Yeuch.

Next you have to find a ladyboy who rocks your boat. For me that meant finding a ladyboy shorter than me (not easy in Thailand), and kind of less confident than me. Sheesh, some of those 5' 9" ballsy ladyboys who parade up and down Nana showing off their size DD chests really scare me!

I also wanted a ladyboy who looked feminine. And I know that most of you guys who are seeking ladyboys want the same.

Well these are actually quite hard to find.

While I saw many ladyboys in Bangkok, many were really just a guy in a dress. Comparatively few look like this:


Japanese guys love feminine looking ladyboys. The problem here is that ladyboys who target Japanese guys may not speak any English. And they're not necessarily interested in Western guys either.

Feminine ladyboys DO exist. But I'll warn you that they do take a while to find. Be prepared for a lot of nights spent trawling dating sites, or an extended vacation spent in Thailand or the Philippines.

There are also other problems you'll no doubt encounter like I did. In another article I'll cover ladyboys with psychological issues, and ladyboy pickiness when it comes to boyfriends.

Any tips on finding really feminine looking ladyboys? Have you tried online dating to meet ladyboys? Leave comments below (anonymously if you want).

Wednesday 25 December 2013

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas. I hope the new year brings yule good fortune and all the sexy beautiful ladyboys you can handle.

Whether you love or hate ladyboys, I guess there's no denying that a Bangkok Christmas is a heck of a lot more appealing than Christmas in Farangland.

Would you rather live here:

Farangland: 10C temperatures, bars full of grumpy people and everything's expensive.
Or here:

Bangkok: 25-30C temperatures, bars full of beautiful ladies and an affordable cost of living.
The zombies in my bit of Farangland are droning round in a Christmas obsessed trance. January will be dominated by storms, snow, fallen trees, credit card bills, colds and flu and the awfulness of spending up to 40 hours a week in a job you hate with colleagues you detest.

Life's better in Thailand!

Tuesday 24 December 2013

Date a Ladyboy... Ruin Your Reputation?

There are many issues involved with dating a ladyboy. One thing worth considering is your REPUTATION.

Bear in mind that many parts of the world and many people are still very conservative. And depending on your job and own personal background, you could be in for a load of trouble if you admit to an interest in ladyboys.

So you might need to be extremely careful who you tell about your interest in ladyboys.

I'll point out at this point that ladyboys are VERY popular. Stickman Bangkok once revealed that about 40% of "short time" escort sessions in Nana Plaza were guys going with ladyboys. When I sat a beer bar in the Plaza people watched for a couple of hours, I pretty much confirmed this figure to be absolutely spot on. Think of how much ladyboy porn there is out there, and how popular that is. So without a shadow of a doubt, ladyboys are wildly popular. However, few ladyboy admirers will be open about it.

I feel especially sorry for you if you're an American guy. Your fellow countrymen seem the least tolerant about ladyboys. If you're European though, then you're in better company. In many European countries you can even legally marry your ladyboy girlfriend.

If you're a single guy travelling to the far East, then there can be reputational issues involved,
and many people may automatically label you as a "sex tourist".
Still, there's no getting away from it...

If you're really, seriously interested in medium-long term relationships with ladyboys, then you're better off moving to Thailand, the Philippines, or maybe even Malaysia.

Have you had reputational issues arise due to your interest in ladyboys? If you've travelled alone to Thailand or the Philippines do your colleagues or family think you're a sex tourist? Leave your comments below (anonymously if you so wish).

What's in a Ladyboy's Handbag? Probably an Empty Purse!

I'll warn you that it's not easy dating a ladyboy.

MONEY will rear its ugly head. Ladyboys never seem to have any money. In fact most of the Thai ladies I also dated seemed to be in a permanent state of not having more than 200 baht to their name.

In my six months living in Bangkok, there was many a time when I couldn't set up a date because the lady/ladyboy in question didn't have enough money to jump on a bus and come meet me in the nearest shopping mall.


So if you want a ladyboy girlfriend, you'll spend a lot of time paying for two. While it's OK being a walking ATM machine if you're getting something in return, if you're not, then it's probably best to move on.

Incidentally, being a geek I've done the math...

If you just want sex with a ladyboy, then go to a bar and find a freelancer. It'll work out 2-3 times cheaper than dating a ladyboy and trying to move the relationship from the first date to some bedroom action.

Monday 23 December 2013

What Did You Do Today? I Dated a Ladyboy!

I've known Simon, the owner of MyLadyboyDate for quite some time. I knew he had a ladyboy girlfriend, but I'd never dated a ladyboy. In fact up to that point I'm not sure I'd even SEEN a ladyboy!

Fast forward 8 months to the day from we had a couple of beers in a London bar, and I'm outside a Bangkok shopping mall, waiting nervously for my first ever ladyboy date to arrive.

OK, at this point I'll stop and say that I DATED a ladyboy. A date is where you meet, have dinner, stare into each others' eyes, and decide if you want to see them again.

If you just want to experience sex with a ladyboy, then all you need to do is book a flight to Bangkok, book a taxi to Nana Plaza, then look for the ladies in Soi 4 who have the best legs. They're the ladyboys of course!

So anyway, I waited, and I waited...

And then I saw her!

MY LADYBOY!

Well what can I say? She looked way better in real life than in her photos.

She had long hair, a a petite body (unusual in a Thai ladyboy) and shapely brown legs.

I'll say at this point that whatever you think about ladyboys, there's no denying that they have way better legs than biological women!

I guess my initial impression of her was that she was, well, a ladyboy. Neither male or female, but of an exquisite and intriguing third sex.

Some of her features were a little manly. Like her hands. But then again one of the Asian women I'd dated a couple of years before had man hands!

Her voice was a little deep, but more feminine than a lot of ladyboys.

As for the exotic factor, she had that in bucketfuls. Wow, I was mesmerised.

One thing that might put you guys off dating a ladyboy is getting stared at. Well I can assure you there because nobody really batted an eyelid at the sight of a guy walking around a busy shopping mall with a ladyboy.

Ladyboys are incredibly common here in Thailand. I can almost guarantee that every train carriage I go into in Bangkok has at least one ladyboy. Sometimes there are two. Usually they have the best legs on show of anyone in that carriage, hee hee!

So if you go to Thailand then you won't have to worry about what people here might think. The people back at home, well that's another matter.

So how did our date go? Well I'm man enough to admit I was freaking nervous. And I never really got nervous on a date before. Just as well that my date was pretty shy as well. I gather that I am the first guy she's ever dated.

The date itself was hard going at times. Partly that was due to her not speaking much English, and I only know 3-4 words of Thai.

Technology came to our rescue and we could use the Google translator on her iPad to try and explain ourselves to each other.

When we finally said our goodbyes, I went home a happy guy. Three months in Thailand, and she's only the second date I've met who I've really wanted to see again.

It's second date time later this afternoon. I cannot wait to see my awesomely cute and wonderful ladyboy again!

Isn't it time you started your own great ladyboy adventure?

Geek Gets Ladyboy Massage!

Four months into my period of living in Bangkok, and my ladyboy dating experience was, well, limited in the extreme.

The main problem I was having was:

1. Ladyboys are flaky, and even getting one to go on a date is a major triumph. Ladyboys claim to find it very hard to find long term partners, but yet when a guy comes along they won't go on a date. Sheesh. Stupid f**king ladyboys.

2. Ladyboys who are full or part-time hookers will meet you, but they're maybe not such good girlfriend material.

So to try and relax a bit I went in search of a ladyboy massage.

Well finding a massage is probably the easiest thing you can do in a city like Bangkok. Massage shops are everywhere. Usually the ladies/ladyboys who aren't doing massages right at that moment will congregate outside their shop and call out "massage" to anyone (usually foreigners) who walk past.


Some massage places have an all female staff, some have a few ladyboys. There are also all-ladyboy massage places, and even places for gay guys to have a massage by a cute looking guy.

The ladyboy I chose was somebody I'd been chatting to on one of the online dating sites. She was early-30's, with a decent chest and also quite tall (but not too tall).

I guess I chose her because I had various ideas of dating a masseuse. Actually, I realise this is a terrible idea - masseuses are maybe not such good girlfriends.

This particular masseuse worked in a spa that had both ladies and ladyboys working there, with about 80% lady to 20% ladyboy.

If you come to Thailand for a massage then you'll find that there are places with just female massage artists, just ladyboys, just guys (intended for gay guys) and places with both women and ladyboys.

Also be aware that some spas are more legit than others. Some are 100% legit. Some you can pay a tip and get a happy ending. Let's not beat about the bush and say that some are just brothels, and you won't actually get a massage at all.

It's kind of hard to tell which is which. As a general guide if the place is in a sex tourist area like Nana or Patpong then there will be extras on the menu.

Anyway, the massage was OK, although I reckon a neck and shoulder massage is rather better than the all over body oil massage I opted for.

To be honest the best part of the session was asking my ladyboy about her life. I found out that although my massage cost 500 baht, it was usual for the masseuse to get just 100 baht of that. So they are extremely reliant on tips. As a result, it's not surprising that there are so many "extras" on offer (e.g. happy endings).

So while 100 baht + a tip might seem like a good way to earn a living in Thailand, it's not as good as it first appears. Bangkok is awash with spas and there's huge competition for customers. The masseuses have to hang around the shop for incredibly long hours in the hope of finding a customer. Dare I say it but many of them could well do better working in a department store or doing some other kind of job with a more regular salary.

So if you're a reasonably well off dude and you go for a massage, be sure to tip your masseuse well!

Anyway, back to my ladyboy. While talking to her I realised that ladyboys are pretty smart. This has since been confirmed by talking to a whole bar load of them. I'd say that without a shadow of a doubt, Thai ladyboys are on average way smarter than Thai ladies. Are guys smarter than women? Does taking female hormones make men smarter? Who knows. All you need to bear in mind is that you need to be exceedingly careful when dealing with ladyboys. If you're intending to double cross them, they'll find out!

As to the massage itself, well ladyboys have strong, experienced hands and a massage by one is definitely something you should add to your TODO list for your next trip to Thailand.

Tuesday 29 October 2013

Would You? Don't Tell Me You Wouldn't!

So it's 1 am in Bangkok. You've been drinking since when? 4? 5? 3?

The main bars and clubs are winding down, so you're shifting to the smaller speakeasies and street bars that are dotted around Bangkok's main entertainment district.

Anyway, you order a Chang, sit at your bar stool, and through your beer goggles you see this:


What would YOU do? Would you be sober enough to spot a ladyboy? And does it really matter what sex he/she/it is?

In Bangkok, anything goes...

Thursday 24 October 2013

Ladyboys Are the Same Same as Girls

I had an interesting email from a ladyboy on one of the ladyboy dating sites.

Sadly she's from the Philippines whereas I'm in Thailand right now.

hi what u mean BKK .. oh really that u shy man . in ur whole life u never meet lady boy .. i can say lady boy it same as girl but the deferent if lady boy no have boob and pussy hhehee ... but the feeling same as a girl ...
By Bkk I mean I'm currently living in Bangkok (Bkk is commonly used as an abbreviation for the city - it's a good way to screen out dating site members who don't actually live there).

But as for being shy, yeah, I have to admit that I do feel shy about meeting ladyboys, much more shy than I feel about dating biological ladies. Not sure why that is so, maybe it's due to ladyboys often being so darned confident.

As to ladyboys being the same as ladies, well they instill the same feelings and urges in me, this ladyboy's damned right about that. And the feelings are indeed much the same regardless of what body parts a ladyboy does or doesn't have.

Friday 4 October 2013

Look at all the Ladyboys I Found on WeChat!

How do you find ladyboys?

One useful tool I've been using in Thailand and Malaysia is Wechat.

I've talked about WeChat before. Here's my research on using it to find ladyboys in Kuala Lumpur.

But WeChat is so awesome it deserves its own post on this blog.

So what is it?

WeChat is a mobile chat tool a lot like Whatsapp or LINE. It's very popular in Asia, as it originated in China as a successor to the wildly popular QQ chat tool.

If you're coming to Asia then make sure you put WeChat on your phone. And if you're interested in meeting ladyboys in your own neighbourhood then it's worth a look - you might just get lucky.

But not anywhere as lucky as I am! Given that I live in Bangkok, the place is positively swarming with ladyboys! The other day I swear I saw 100 ladyboys in just one single day.

Anyway, WeChat. What is it good for?

The best and coolest thing about the app is that you can use the People Nearby function to find people in your local area.

I bet Kirk from Star Trek didn't have a ladyboy detector on his Tricorder. But if you have a smart phone then you can get WeChat to do exactly this function!

WeChat in Action

Here are some screen dumps of the wonderful WeChat in action.

As I said before, you can set phasers to stun and look for all the people in your local area. For ladyboys, set the options to show only females.

And here you go, I've found at least two ladyboys within 200m of my own location:

 

Incidentally, if you want to date ladies then look for anyone who has put their status as single or lonely! So the above haul of people in my neighbourhood of Bangkok includes 2 ladyboys and 3 single ladies. Interesting.

In somewhere like Thailand, it's a good bet that anyone writing English in their profile is looking for a foreigner to meet. So if somebody puts I am ladyboy (or the Thailish version Am Ladyboys) then it's pretty obvious that they want to meet you.

The downside to WeChat is that you can't actually tell how old anyone is. So don't go chatting to underage girls (or ladyboys for that matter!).

I'll give you a tip that with location-based apps it's a good idea to move around your city and see who else you can find. Here's another search I made:


This time, three ladyboys - I've ringed them in red. And just to show you how popular WeChat is with ladyboys - a real lady I've ringed in blue has put (Female) after her name just to make it abundantly clear that she isn't a ladyboy!

So far so good then. WeChat is good for finding ladyboys. But what is the quality like?

Well if you want ladyboys with big cocks, well here's just the thing for you:


Ha ha ha, at least she's direct. No beating around the bush here (if she had a bush that is).

Here's another ladyboy I found:


This one is cuter and maybe more girlfriend experience type ladyboy.

Incidentally, I'd guestimate that 75% of the ladyboys on WeChat are hookers. When I get more time I'll make some sort of questionnaire type thing so you know how to spot them. But suffice to say that ladyboys with big fake breasts are almost always hookers (that surgery ain't cheap!). Good English speakers are also more likely to be hookers, especially if they're young. And of course anyone with sexy photos (especially boob shot selfies) is probably a hooker. That's the same of women as it is with transsexuals.

A lot also depends on the location you deploy your WeChat search. Do a search in Bangkok anywhere along Sukhumvit/Nana/Soi Cowboy/Patpong and it's safe to say you'll pretty much only find hookers.

Which is fine of course if that's what you want.

If you want a longer term girlfriend and you're in Bangkok then head for the MBK shopping mall and use WeChat to find them all. There are hundreds of ladyboys who work in that vast mall, and they're far less likely to be hookers.

So good luck with WeChat, and report back your findings here!

I should also add that in four months in Bangkok I found my best ever girlfriend on WeChat. So don't spend too much time on old school dating sites - travel around the city and see who's in your current neighbourhood!

A Ladyboy Show... Just for Rich People!

I walked past a few beautifully dressed ladyboys the other night and found they were handing out fliers for a ladyboy show.

...Dang - I should have asked them if any of them were single (which was more than likely).

Anyway, if you have plenty of money and want to take in a ladyboy show then check them out:



Ladyboy shows seem quite popular in Phuket and Pattaya, but I've never been to one. Up till now I've never even seen one of the venues where the shows take place.

Of course there are plenty of Ladyboy gogo bars in Bangkok, but maybe these aren't places you would want to take the wife or family.

Anyway, I was rather taken back by the price of admission to the show - 888 baht (before 9) or a whopping 1300 baht (after 9). While you can have unlimited drinks in the 90 minutes you're allowed in for, it's still pretty steep. In 90 minutes the average guy is probably going to only drink 4 bottles of Chang beer, which would amount to 4 x 150 baht in a gogo bar.

Last night I bought 2 Chang beers and 4 lady drinks in a Soi Cowboy bar and the bill came to 610 baht. For that I got a lady to sit with me for the entire evening, and let's just say the personal service was excellent.

If you want to take things even further, then 888 or 1300 baht is also enough money to find a ladyboy and take her back to your room for a couple of hours of personal entertainment.

By the way, the ladyboys in these shows certainly are beautiful and very feminine. But just bear in mind that many/most and maybe all are post-op transsexuals. Most guys tend to prefer pre-op ladyboys (i.e. those with a cock) so if you want to check these types of ladyboy out, then head to Nana Plaza, Soi Cowboy or Patpong. Nana Plaza is absolutely the best place in Bangkok to see pre-op ladyboys up close and personal.

Thursday 3 October 2013

Worlds MUST NOT Collide

Interested in dating ladyboys?

Then one thing to be careful of is to make sure worlds do not collide.

I'm happy for readers to add their own thoughts to this.

But what I've found so far is this:
  1. Ladies don't generally like men who are interested in ladyboys!
  2. Ladyboys are probably OK with you liking and dating women. After all they aspire to be women themselves. But they're going to question your long term relationship motives, especially if you're of the age when you could be starting a family with a biological woman.
  3. Do ladyboys like men who like other men? I have no information on this. But I don't know if gay men would like ladyboys anyway. Ladyboys generally look for heterosexual guys. Here in Thailand gay guys tend to date other guys.
So if you're coming to Thailand or the Philippines to date ladyboys, then it's probably best to keep this quiet from any ladies you're intending to meet. I got called out on this when a lady questioned why I put in my Thai Love Links profile that I wanted to meet ladies or ladyboys.

Why do ladies hate ladyboy fans? Probably because:
  • She might suspect you're gay or a deviant, even though this isn't likely to be the case.
  • Transsexuals have a higher risk of contracting HIV, and so do those who have sex with them.
  • A lady is going to be worried that you might go off and spend all your spare time and money in the company of ladyboys.
If you're ever on a date with a lady and you spot a particularly hot ladyboy, just keep it to yourself!

The best thing is to probably just date ladies or ladyboys. In fact, as I explained in this post I have dated way more ladies here than I have ladyboys.

But hey, if it looks hot, I'll date it!

Wednesday 2 October 2013

The Day of 100 Ladyboys

Yesterday I'm pretty sure I saw 100 ladyboys. As a long time resident of Bangkok, even I was taken aback by just how numerous ladyboys are here.

And I'm not talking about ladyboys who work in Bangkok's sex industry either. I'm talking about legit ladyboys with legit 9-5 jobs. Or 9-9 jobs more like. I've visited a few countries in my time, but Thai people seem to work the longest hours of all. My friend here found a really cute girl to date. But she works 14 hours a day in a restaurant, so their options for dating are rather limited. But I digress. Back to ladyboys...

The first couple of ladyboys I saw were on the BTS SkyTrain that runs down the middle of Bangkok's most important road.

It's very common to see ladyboys on the BTS, so if you're in Bangkok then keep your eyes open for them. Usually they have the best legs of any ladies in the train carriage!

After that I went to the MBK shopping mall for lunch, and I also wanted to buy some new headphones for my iPod.

MBK is a good place to go if you want to buy souvenirs or just about anything else while you're in Bangkok. There's also some good food to be had on the top floor. I'm a big fan of the burger place there that does a cheap Mr Beef meal. Plus there's a pretty good Vietnamese café there as well, serving up authentic Vietnamese favourites.

To get to MBK, just take the BTS to National Stadium - the terminal station for the Silom line. Actually you can also walk from Siam station - it's only around 10 minutes away on foot.

Most of MBK's ladyboys are to be found on the 4th floor where they mostly work in the little shops that sell electronic goods and new phone numbers for your mobile phone. Most are young and are around 21-28 years of age. Ideal dating material then.

If you see any you like, then don't be afraid to approach them! Ladyboys find it exceedingly hard to find boyfriends who want anything more than just short-time sex. Most Bangkok ladyboys seem to be single.

If you're too shy to cold approach them then use a mobile chat tool to seek them out online first then break the ice. Wechat or Skout will be good for this.

While in MBK I also saw two guys and a ladyboy who were of about high school age. That kind of got me thinking about why ladyboys decide to become ladyboys and not just regular teenage guys. Most ladyboys I've talked to say they wanted to become a ladyboy from an early age.

Anyway, it was just so cool to see two young guys hanging round with their mate who'd decided to become a ladyboy and wear girl clothes.

Later I went to another Bangkok shopping mall - Terminal 21 in Asok. This is a great place to spot high class ladyboys who have professional jobs or rich boyfriends!

I ate in the food court - just 27 baht for cashew chicken and rice. At the next table was a glamorous older ladyboy who obviously had a pretty good office based job.

If you're interested in dating ladyboys for longer term relationships, then these are the ladies you need to be seeking out!

So all in all an interesting day out and again it was just amazing to see that ladyboys are just a normal part of everyday life in Bangkok.

Sunday 29 September 2013

My Friend Found Thailand's Loveliest Ladyboy... I Found Thailand's Biggest Diva :(

Bangkok is one of the World's most visited cities. So it's quite common for friends and former acquaintances to come and drop by and visit me for an evening or two.

One night I met a friend I used to work with, and he was interested in sampling some of Bangkok's riotous nightlife. So sure enough, we ended up in Soi Cowboy - a short street packed with bars and somewhere you'll recognise if you've ever watched Hangover Part 2.

Anyway, we walked up and down the street a couple of times while my friend took in the neon and the scantily clad gogo dancers and the smell of Thai street cooking.

Eventually we got to near the end of the street and my friend spotted Soi Cowboy's only all ladyboy gogo bar, Cockatoo.

Well, I had no idea my friend was interested in ladyboys. But he spotted the bikini clad ladyboys outside the bar, and by the time I turned round he was practically through the door of the place.

So I followed him in and sat down next to my friend. It turns out we had to choose a drink (Chang beer for me, naturally) and choose a ladyboy who would sit next to us. I'm not sure if it was mandatory to choose a ladyboy, or whether it was just a rule made up to help ease some money out of the wallets of gullible farang tourists.

Well anyway my friend seemed to have no difficulty choosing his ladyboy. He went for the most feminine looking cutey in the whole bar. She had an orange bikini, huge pneumatic breasts and false fluttering eye lashes. Not hard to see why he was so smitten with her.

As for me, well I was confronted by three or was it four ladyboys who were all vying for the chance to be my girl for half an hour or so, or maybe longer.

I couldn't choose between another girl in orange bikini or one with a black one.

In the end I chose the one in black.

Big mistake!

My ladyboy turned out to be the exact opposite of the sweet beautiful thing sat on my friend's lap.

All mine wanted to talk about the whole time I was in the bar was going back to my hotel later for some sexy time.

Admittedly for 2000 baht plus a 600 baht bar fine it was a pretty good proposition from a financial point of view. That's quite a bit less than what you'd have to pay to take a girl home from many of Bangkok's other top gogo bars. And probably less than what you'd have to spend on dating a "good" lady or ladyboy before you got some bedroom action.

But my ladyboy just plain irritated me. I wasn't interested in bar fining anyone. I'd rather work on my dating game and meet some "good" ladyboys. Plus if I did want to take a girl for some short time fun, I'd definitely cut the bar's commission out of the equation.

Well needless to say even buying her a lady drink wasn't going to satisfy this diva.

Whine, whine, whine, whine, whine. Heck, if I wanted that all night, I'd get married.

When it was time to leave she demanded a tip, which I certainly wasn't going to give her. To my mind, tipping should only be rewarded for good service. Like the other night I got a fantastic Thai neck and back massage from one of the waitresses in Suzy Wong's. That was definitely worth a good tip!

All the time my friend was busily exploring his new ladyboy friend. Well I tried doing the same to mine, but damn - my ladyboy hasn't shaved her legs. Stubbly legs - that's a big turnoff for me whether I'm checking out ladyboy or lady.

So a bad night for me, but rather better night for my friend.

Who Wants Ladyboys? Not Thai Guys It Would Seem...

Living in Bangkok I see a whole lot of ladyboys.

Foreign visitors to Thailand are often left open mouthed at their first sighting of a particularly hot ladyboy.

Once you've been living here a while, you get used to seeing ladyboys everywhere. My 7-11 employs one on the checkout. I once used a ladyboy staffed currency exchange booth. I also bought my new shoes from a ladyboy.

But one thing puzzles me - why don't Thai guys actually like ladyboys?

Well maybe they do, but in over 3 months in Bangkok now, I've NEVER seen a Thai guy walking round town with a ladyboy by his side.

I've seen plenty of farangs and Japanese guys with ladyboy partners. Near where I live there are a couple of foreigners who have particularly hot girlfriends - both of which are ladyboys.

And there are whole parts of Thailand devoted to foreigners who like ladyboys.

Here in Bangkok, Nana Plaza is pretty much given over to ladyboys these days:



Japanese guys tend to prefer the places on the bottom floor, farangs are more catered for on the first and second floors.

And while I was away partying in Pattaya, I spotted a bar catering for Middle Eastern guys who like incredibly loud music. This bar was exclusively staffed by ladyboys:




Ladyboys are also a common sight in my favourite Middle Eastern restaurant in Nana. It's safe to say that Middle Eastern guys are intrigued by the exotic.

So ladyboys seem universally popular, except maybe with guys who actually live in a country that's actually home to a lot of ladyboys. Strange, but I'm happy to stand corrected if you know otherwise.

Saturday 28 September 2013

Ladyboys in Malaysia

A couple of months ago, I had to renew my Thai visa. I could only do this outside of Thailand. So I embarked upon a side visit to Kuala Lumpur in Malaysia.


While in Malaysia, I did a bit of research into the ladyboy dating scene over there.

I'd guestimate that Malaysia is the 3rd best country to find Asian ladyboys in, after Thailand and the Philippines.

What puts ladyboy loving Westerners off exploring this country's delights could be the fact that it's a Muslim country, and therefore less tolerant of anything that could be looked upon as being vaguely sexually deviant.

But fear not - there are plenty of ladyboys in Malaysia. But the whole transsexual thing is simply more underground there.

I did see a few ladyboys in Malaysia. And they were quite easy to find on mobile chat apps. So if you like ladyboys and you're ever visiting Kuala Lumpur or Penang, then make sure you bring your smartphone with you!

I found this rather gloriously chubby Malaysian ladyboy on one of the mobile chat apps I happened to have installed on my phone:


 
Sadly I was only there for a week, so I never did get a chance to meet her in person.

I'm sure I'll be back to Malaysia though - it's a fabulous and very underrated country. And they gave me a 90 day visitor visa on arrival. Wonderful.

Here's a couple of photos to whet your appetite...

The iconic Petronas towers:


The amazing Batu Caves:



These caves are only a 30 minute train ride out of central Kuala Lumpur. And they're surely a wonderous location to take your Malaysian ladyboy on a second date!
 

If You Like Ladyboys, Are You Gay?

I was thinking about some of the cans of worms that you could potentially open by dating a ladyboy.

Top of the list I guess would be...

If you date a ladyboy, does that make you gay?

So let's tackle the whole gay issue straight on.

The answer as far as I am concerned is NO - if you like ladyboys, you're NOT gay.

In fact quite the opposite. Ladyboys strive to be feminine and ladylike, so we ladyboy enthusiasts are seeking out femininity in our ladyboys.

Here in Thailand, being a top notch ladyboy means being as feminine as, or indeed, more feminine than the local ladies.

When you're in a Bangkok shopping mall, how do you spot the ladyboys?

Well that's easy - the ladyboys are much more likely to have shaved their legs!

And I'll also point out that you can easily date women as well as ladyboys. But if you don't want to answer awkward questions you're better off not telling women that you have a thing for ladyboys.

In fact, I've dated way more ladies than ladyboys here in Thailand. Here are my dating statistics after 3 months of living in Bangkok:


So from these stats I'm pretty sure that I'm not gay.

My experiences of meeting ladyboys has also been that they're very much a 3rd gender. They're not men, but neither are they women. They're exotically different, and should be regarded as such.

And here in Thailand, there ARE gay men. But the gay men here don't date ladyboys, they date guys. In fact there are clubs and bars and massage places just for gay guys - these are completely separate from the ladyboy clubs and bars and massage joints here.

So don't worry - if you like ladyboys, you're NOT gay.
 
 

Hey Mom - I Dated a Ladyboy!

"Hey, mom, I dated a ladyboy."

"That's nice dear. Now when are you going to get married and give us some cute Asian grandchildren?"

"Err..."

In this blog I'll share my experiences of being a geeky guy living and dating in SE Asia.

The particular emphasis will be on my forays into the wonderful world of ladyboy dating.

I've done some interesting stuff in my life, but first ever date with ladyboy was definitely one of my more extraordinary and memorable life experiences.

If you're interested in ladyboys as well, then read and learn from my experiences (and mistakes). Oh, I'll warn you straight up that if you thought women could be crazy, then ladyboy dating is just a whole new world of insane.

Thanks for stopping by.

GeekyGuy
Bangkok, September 2013.