Sunday 19 January 2014

Which Ladyboy Dating Sites Are The Best?

Which ladyboy dating sites are best? In this post I'll run through the different sites I used to actually meet my ladyboy dates when I was living in Thailand...

Ladyboy Kisses is probably the longest running ladyboy dating site there is. It was established years ago, and unfortunately looks ancient as well.

Still, if you judge a dating site by the number of members then Ladyboy Kisses reigns supreme. There are reckoned to be over 10,000 ladyboy profiles on the site, so there's a huge choice of members to meet.

As my geeky chart shows, it's also a great site if you're particularly interested in younger ladyboys:

Ladyboy Kisses - ladyboy members by age
There are plenty of ladyboys from Thailand on the site, and also some from other countries (particularly Malaysia and Indonesia). But Filipino ladyboys are by far the most numerous.

MyLadyboyDate is run by a friend of mine, so I know this site is legit.

I used the site in its first year of operation. So the site was still filling up with ladyboy profiles.

I chatted with quite a few Bangkok ladyboys through this site. I was impressed that I got something like a 75% response rate to my interests on this site. If only other dating sites offered those sort of statistics!

Sure, about half the ladyboys I chatted to on the site were hookers, but hey, that's Bangkok for you! But to be fair I'd guess that 80% of guys chatting to ladyboys just want sex, and not a long term relationship.

Anyway, it's a pretty decent ladyboy dating site, and if more ladyboys join then it could easily topple Ladyboy Kisses from the #1 spot.


Asian Love Connections is a small Asian dating site and at the time of writing it offered free ladyboy dating. There are also Asian women on the site if you're interested in them as well.

Thai Love Links was the main dating site I used while I was living in Thailand. The site has hundreds of thousands of members, and it's not too hard to find a date.

There are quite a few ladyboys on this site. But the irritation is that you don't know whether to find them while browsing the male or the female profiles. What's worse is that to see the ladyboys who have registered as male, you need to browse through the profiles of guys. Which is kind of not the thing you want to do if you're edgy about the whole if I like ladyboys, am I gay thing.

And you'll also get messages and interests from macho looking guys - yeuch!

Still, if you're interested in chatting to both Thai ladyboys and girls, then this site will keep you busy for a while. I must have got about 30 dates from this site, so it was absolutely worth the monthly subscription fee.

Incidentally, if you're more interested in Philippines dating then Thai Love Links has a sister site called Filipino Cupid. This site has a whole load of ladyboys on it


DateInAsia is the largest FREE Asian dating site out there. There are some ladyboys on there, but they can be a little hard to find. Again, they're hidden amongst both the male and female members on the site.

DateInAsia is quite hostile towards ladyboys which is nonsense given that ladyboys are such a significant part of daily life in countries like Thailand and the Philippines. I've also never, ever dated anyone through the site. Most of the female/ladyboy members are sadly either scammers or hookers. Avoid.


I haven't made much mention of the various sex dating websites out there. There are quite a few of these, with names such as FindAShemaleLover.

While I was in Thailand there was no need to use these sites. If you just want to fuck a ladyboy then you'll find plenty of them in real life, so there's no point in paying a dating site subscription. Instead just take a taxi or a tuk-tuk to Nana Plaza or Soi Cowboy in Bangkok, or to Walking Street in Pattaya.

I also find these sex dating sites to be a bit intimidating. And I wonder how many of them are filled with scammers and fake profiles?

Rest assured that the mainstream ladyboy dating sites mentioned in this article are 100% legit and have plenty of real ladyboys on them. They also have flat rate membership fees (or are free) so you won't get stung with paying for expensive video chats or other services.


So, if you want the best possible choice of ladyboy to chat to, then Ladyboy Kisses is the site to use. However, keep an eye on MyLadyboyDate, which is fast making inroads into the ladyboy dating scene.

If you're not sure about the whole ladyboy thing, then check out Asian Love Connections. At the time of writing it still offered FREE LADYBOY DATING so you can easily sign up and just see for yourself whether you really do want to get into the whole ladyboy relationship thing.

Happy dating!

If you've got any suggestions of other ladyboy sites, or you have any opinions about the sites mentioned, then please leave comments below.

Wednesday 15 January 2014

Dating or Sex? Which Path is Best?

Why do YOU want to meet a ladyboy?

It's essential that you're honest with yourself when you answer this.

Ladyboys are smart enough to know that 90% of guys visiting the Philippines or Thailand to meet ladyboys are just going for the sex. A long term relationship with a ladyboy is the last thing on their minds.

So ladyboy dating and sex really don't mix. If you're visiting the Philippines or Thailand for a vacation and just want to "test drive" a ladyboy, then just find an escort.

My reasons are:

1. Escorts are professionals and will make sure your first time with a ladyboy is a good one. Don't worry if you're shy - ladyboys know that every customer is a first time customer. Few men will actually admit to having a thing for ladyboys!

I've heard that ladyboy escorts usually give you excellent service, and seem less temperamental than biological ladies.

2. Dating is hard work. It takes time to chat to potential dates, then set dates up. Life is hard in Thailand, especially for ladyboys who face a lot of discrimination from potential employers. And it's not uncommon for ladyboys with jobs in shopping malls or offices to work 6 days a week. So by the time you've arranged to meet, you might be on the plane home!

Plus ladyboys have occasional disasters like food poisoning. You could spend months chatting to a cute ladyboy online, and when you finally get to Pattaya she could flake on you. Darn that street food!!!


Thai Ladyboys and ladies really love that Bangkok street food...
3. It's cheaper!

I spent 6 months living in Bangkok. If you add up the costs of dates and compared it with the costs of hiring a ladyboy hooker...

There's no contest. It's MUCH CHEAPER to just hire a hooker than to get a non-hooker into bed. Hmmm, the sex would no doubt be much better with the hooker as well.

If you want to make contact with ladyboys before you travel to Asia, then check out these dating sites:

Incidentally you'll find a mixture of hookers and non-hookers on these sites. The ladyboys will normally be pretty up-front about which type of ladyboy they are. In most cases it's pretty easy to tell from the types of photos they upload to their profiles.

Wednesday 8 January 2014

My Third Date With a Ladyboy

After a bit of a hiatus it was time for third date with my ladyboy.

I really hate losing momentum in a relationship, but I've generally found dating to be an immensely slow process in Thailand.

Still, at least I have things better than my friend. He told me the Thai girl he likes works 14 hours a day in a restaurant, so his options for taking her out on dates are limited in the extreme.

Chinese ladies worked pretty long hours, and that was a bit of a problem when I was dating in China. But most ladies I met only worked M-F, so weekends were good for dating. Here in Thailand it's relatively common for people to work 6 or even 7 days a week. And there also seem to be far fewer public holidays than there were in China.

But I digress...

How did 3rd date go?

For the third date we ate at Pizza Hut. This was the first time I'd been to Pizza Hut in Thailand, although I went there 100's of times in China!

Thailand's Pizza Huts serve food with a Thai flair - think Pizzas with seafood stick toppings.

Well we ended up with all kinds of food I wasn't sure I ordered - a common occurrence when your date doesn't speak English.

Then she had to go home again - she is young and her parents are quite strict. But I'm hopeful of 4th date.

I've broken so many rules with this ladyboy, quite apart from the fact that she's a ladyboy. But in general I'd recommend that you only date Asian ladies/ladyboys who speak a fair amount of English. And it's much easier to date somebody who's had a sexual relationship before. Then you can escalate a lot more quickly, certainly by the 3rd date.

Still, I'm planning on staying in Thailand for the long term, so I can afford to take things slowly.

Incidentally, like on the first date, farang with young ladyboy was not at all interesting to the general population. I don't recall seeing any strange looks at all. So don't worry if you have misgivings about being seen in public with a ladyboy. Here in Thailand it's nothing unusual at all. Actually the most unusual thing of all here is seeing a white Western guy with a white Western wife!

Oh, and I almost forgot. My ladyboy looked very hot today! Thai University students have to wear uniforms. They come in two types - demure and slutty. Today I got the slutty look! This is what I'm talking about:

 

Thursday 2 January 2014

The Whole Age and Age Difference Thing

My first ever date with a ladyboy was with a cutie who was half my age.

Am I stupid for dating a ladyboy half my age? Of course! But I'm old enough to know better.

So what age of ladyboy is it worth dating?

If you want a lasting relationship, then I'll recommend you be wary of ladyboys who are younger than 24. At that age they're still coming to terms with their sexuality, and can sometimes have big psychological issues.

Ladyboys are very popular when they're young, but once they get to 26-27 their popularity wanes, and they start to look for a more long term relationship. This is the age to seek out when you're after a ladyboy girlfriend.

I will also encourage you to seek out the older ladyboys. I've seen some fabulous ladyboys who are in their early to mid 30's. Biological men generally have firmer skin than women so ladyboys can go on looking hot for years. Thai people generally age more slowly than Western people. That much was apparent when I dated a 35yo Thai-Chinese woman who looked 24!

One good thing is that it's pretty easy to find a younger ladyboy girlfriend. I did some geeky Excel work on the ages of the ladyboy members of the popular Ladyboy Kisses dating site:


As you can see, most of the ladyboy members of the site are in their 20's, with smaller numbers in their 30's There are very few older ladyboys on the site - way fewer than there would be Asian ladies on sites like Asian Love Connections or Filipino Cupid.

I didn't do the same chart for the male members of the site. But in Bangkok I've seen guys of all ages with ladyboys at their side. If anything though, ladyboys are even more popular with younger guys.

I'm 40 and my first ladyboy date was 20. Is that an excessive age difference, or would you contemplate an even larger age difference?