Geek Burns Out of Dating

A year in Asia... 50+ dates... so what did I learn?

Going on dates is a lot of fun. But finding a life partner... that takes a whole lot of searching.

I'd guestimate that 20% of the dates I met would have made good life partners.

You might get lucky and find Miss 100%, but otherwise it's a bit of a trade off. Do you go for looks? Personality? Or find somebody who is a general all round "7"?

I dated some VERY attractive Asian ladies, but 9's and 10's had their own particular problems. And it troubled me that the hottest date I had in Thailand left her last boyfriend because he kept cheating on her. If she was so hot then why did he do that?

Ladies not Ladyboys?

I'd liked to have dated more ladyboys, but finding ones who were more into dating than fucking for money was not at all easy in Bangkok.

Anyway, if you do want an Asian lady or ladyboy life partner, then here are my 10 top tips:

1. Finding marriage minded ladyboys worth marrying is hard work. Harder work even than finding a Thai bride.
2. Bar ladies are best avoided - not so much because they work in a bar, but because of the backstory to their lives that have made them ending up working in a bar. Quite a few bar ladies are rather fond of Beer Chang or other substances - habits which are hard to kick. Bar ladyboys could well be a moderately safer bet, as there are far fewer opportunities for ladyboys to finance the kind of bodymods you guys want them to invest in. For example, getting a boob job will cost a ladyboy 4 months wages in an average job (assuming she saves 100% of her monthly income that is).
3. Be careful dating ladyboys (or ladies) who don't speak much English. I dated a few Asian ladies who were total psychological messes - but if you don't speak their language and they don't speak yours, how would you ever find out? Ladyboys can have major psychological issues - a result of conflicting hormones, family problems and the hardships of living in a society where ladyboys still face prejudices.
4. If somebody really likes you - they'll want to talk to you and hang out with you. Avoid anyone who doesn't often reply to your messages right away, or who is a pain in the ass when it comes to scheduling dates. Maybe they've got other guys on the go. Maybe they're just not that into you.
5. On the other hand, clingy people are to be avoided at all costs, unless you actually like them and want to see them again. Clingy ladies and ladyboys will tug at your heart strings and cause you a lot of problems down the line. My rule is that if they weren't worth a second date, I delete them from my phone and instant messaging apps. It's kinder on them as well.
6. Don't make any hasty decisions in Thailand, the Philippines or anywhere else. Jetlag and extreme heat and humidity will really cloud your judgement and it takes at least a week to acclimatise if you're flying in from Europe or the USA. God knows I talked to some delusional Western dudes while I was living in Bangkok.
7. Don't enter business or property partnerships with Asian girlfriends or prospective marriage partners.
8. It's best to avoid anyone in Asia who has a crazy ex-. For that reason, I'm wary of divorced ladies, and I don't go near anyone who is still married (there are quite a few marrieds on sites like Thai Love Links).
9. Dating can get pretty intense, so always have a side project. Don't let dating get in the way of doing man stuff.
10. Finally, don't take dating too seriously. Treat it as a lot of fun - and if you find somebody special, then so much the better.

Enjoy your own Asian lady/ladyboy dating experience!