Would You? Don't Tell Me You Wouldn't!

So it's 1 am in Bangkok. You've been drinking since when? 4? 5? 3?

The main bars and clubs are winding down, so you're shifting to the smaller speakeasies and street bars that are dotted around Bangkok's main entertainment district.

Anyway, you order a Chang, sit at your bar stool, and through your beer goggles you see this:

What would YOU do? Would you be sober enough to spot a ladyboy? And does it really matter what sex he/she/it is?

In Bangkok, anything goes...

Ladyboys Are the Same Same as Girls

I had an interesting email from a ladyboy on one of the ladyboy dating sites.

Sadly she's from the Philippines whereas I'm in Thailand right now.

hi what u mean BKK .. oh really that u shy man . in ur whole life u never meet lady boy .. i can say lady boy it same as girl but the deferent if lady boy no have boob and pussy hhehee ... but the feeling same as a girl ...

By Bkk I mean I'm currently living in Bangkok (Bkk is commonly used as an abbreviation for the city - it's a good way to screen out dating site members who don't actually live there).

But as for being shy, yeah, I have to admit that I do feel shy about meeting ladyboys, much more shy than I feel about dating biological ladies. Not sure why that is so, maybe it's due to ladyboys often being so darned confident.

As to ladyboys being the same as ladies, well they instill the same feelings and urges in me, this ladyboy's damned right about that. And the feelings are indeed much the same regardless of what body parts a ladyboy does or doesn't have.

Look at all the Ladyboys I Found on WeChat!

How do you find ladyboys?

One useful tool I've been using in Thailand and Malaysia is Wechat.

I've talked about WeChat before. Here's my research on using it to find ladyboys in Kuala Lumpur.

But WeChat is so awesome it deserves its own post on this blog.

So what is it?

WeChat is a mobile chat tool a lot like Whatsapp or LINE. It's very popular in Asia, as it originated in China as a successor to the wildly popular QQ chat tool.

If you're coming to Asia then make sure you put WeChat on your phone. And if you're interested in meeting ladyboys in your own neighbourhood then it's worth a look - you might just get lucky.

But not anywhere as lucky as I am! Given that I live in Bangkok, the place is positively swarming with ladyboys! The other day I swear I saw 100 ladyboys in just one single day.

Anyway, WeChat. What is it good for?

The best and coolest thing about the app is that you can use the People Nearby function to find people in your local area.

I bet Kirk from Star Trek didn't have a ladyboy detector on his Tricorder. But if you have a smart phone then you can get WeChat to do exactly this function!

WeChat in Action

Here are some screen dumps of the wonderful WeChat in action.

As I said before, you can set phasers to stun and look for all the people in your local area. For ladyboys, set the options to show only females.

And here you go, I've found at least two ladyboys within 200m of my own location:

 



Incidentally, if you want to date ladies then look for anyone who has put their status as single or lonely! So the above haul of people in my neighbourhood of Bangkok includes 2 ladyboys and 3 single ladies. Interesting.

In somewhere like Thailand, it's a good bet that anyone writing English in their profile is looking for a foreigner to meet. So if somebody puts I am ladyboy (or the Thailish version Am Ladyboys) then it's pretty obvious that they want to meet you.

The downside to WeChat is that you can't actually tell how old anyone is. So don't go chatting to underage girls (or ladyboys for that matter!).

I'll give you a tip that with location-based apps it's a good idea to move around your city and see who else you can find. Here's another search I made:

This time, three ladyboys - I've ringed them in red. And just to show you how popular WeChat is with ladyboys - a real lady I've ringed in blue has put (Female) after her name just to make it abundantly clear that she isn't a ladyboy!

So far so good then. WeChat is good for finding ladyboys. But what is the quality like?

Well if you want ladyboys with big cocks, well here's just the thing for you:

Ha ha ha, at least she's direct. No beating around the bush here (if she had a bush that is).

Here's another ladyboy I found:

This one is cuter and maybe more girlfriend experience type ladyboy.

Incidentally, I'd guestimate that 75% of the ladyboys on WeChat are hookers. When I get more time I'll make some sort of questionnaire type thing so you know how to spot them. But suffice to say that ladyboys with big fake breasts are almost always hookers (that surgery ain't cheap!). Good English speakers are also more likely to be hookers, especially if they're young. And of course anyone with sexy photos (especially boob shot selfies) is probably a hooker. That's the same of women as it is with transsexuals.

A lot also depends on the location you deploy your WeChat search. Do a search in Bangkok anywhere along Sukhumvit/Nana/Soi Cowboy/Patpong and it's safe to say you'll pretty much only find hookers.

Which is fine of course if that's what you want.

If you want a longer term girlfriend and you're in Bangkok then head for the MBK shopping mall and use WeChat to find them all. There are hundreds of ladyboys who work in that vast mall, and they're far less likely to be hookers.

So good luck with WeChat, and report back your findings here!

I should also add that in four months in Bangkok I found my best ever girlfriend on WeChat. So don't spend too much time on old school dating sites - travel around the city and see who's in your current neighbourhood!

A Ladyboy Show... Just for Rich People!

I walked past a few beautifully dressed ladyboys the other night and found they were handing out fliers for a ladyboy show.

...Dang - I should have asked them if any of them were single (which was more than likely).

Anyway, if you have plenty of money and want to take in a ladyboy show then check them out:

Ladyboy shows seem quite popular in Phuket and Pattaya, but I've never been to one. Up till now I've never even seen one of the venues where the shows take place.

Of course there are plenty of Ladyboy gogo bars in Bangkok, but maybe these aren't places you would want to take the wife or family.

Anyway, I was rather taken back by the price of admission to the show - 888 baht (before 9) or a whopping 1300 baht (after 9). While you can have unlimited drinks in the 90 minutes you're allowed in for, it's still pretty steep. In 90 minutes the average guy is probably going to only drink 4 bottles of Chang beer, which would amount to 4 x 150 baht in a gogo bar.

Last night I bought 2 Chang beers and 4 lady drinks in a Soi Cowboy bar and the bill came to 610 baht. For that I got a lady to sit with me for the entire evening, and let's just say the personal service was excellent.

If you want to take things even further, then 888 or 1300 baht is also enough money to find a ladyboy and take her back to your room for a couple of hours of personal entertainment.

By the way, the ladyboys in these shows certainly are beautiful and very feminine. But just bear in mind that many/most and maybe all are post-op transsexuals. Most guys tend to prefer pre-op ladyboys (i.e. those with a cock) so if you want to check these types of ladyboy out, then head to Nana Plaza, Soi Cowboy or Patpong. Nana Plaza is absolutely the best place in Bangkok to see pre-op ladyboys up close and personal.

Worlds MUST NOT Collide

Interested in dating ladyboys?

Then one thing to be careful of is to make sure worlds do not collide.

I'm happy for readers to add their own thoughts to this.

But what I've found so far is this:

1. Ladies don't generally like men who are interested in ladyboys!
2. Ladyboys are probably OK with you liking and dating women. After all they aspire to be women themselves. But they're going to question your long term relationship motives, especially if you're of the age when you could be starting a family with a biological woman.
3. Do ladyboys like men who like other men? I have no information on this. But I don't know if gay men would like ladyboys anyway. Ladyboys generally look for heterosexual guys. Here in Thailand gay guys tend to date other guys.

So if you're coming to Thailand or the Philippines to date ladyboys, then it's probably best to keep this quiet from any ladies you're intending to meet. I got called out on this when a lady questioned why I put in my Thai Love Links profile that I wanted to meet ladies or ladyboys.

Why do ladies hate ladyboy fans? Probably because:

• She might suspect you're gay or a deviant, even though this isn't likely to be the case.
• Transsexuals have a higher risk of contracting HIV, and so do those who have sex with them.
• A lady is going to be worried that you might go off and spend all your spare time and money in the company of ladyboys.

If you're ever on a date with a lady and you spot a particularly hot ladyboy, just keep it to yourself!

The best thing is to probably just date ladies or ladyboys. In fact, as I explained in this post I have dated way more ladies here than I have ladyboys.

But hey, if it looks hot, I'll date it!

The Day of 100 Ladyboys

Yesterday I'm pretty sure I saw 100 ladyboys. As a long time resident of Bangkok, even I was taken aback by just how numerous ladyboys are here.

And I'm not talking about ladyboys who work in Bangkok's sex industry either. I'm talking about legit ladyboys with legit 9-5 jobs. Or 9-9 jobs more like. I've visited a few countries in my time, but Thai people seem to work the longest hours of all. My friend here found a really cute girl to date. But she works 14 hours a day in a restaurant, so their options for dating are rather limited. But I digress. Back to ladyboys...

The first couple of ladyboys I saw were on the BTS SkyTrain that runs down the middle of Bangkok's most important road.

It's very common to see ladyboys on the BTS, so if you're in Bangkok then keep your eyes open for them. Usually they have the best legs of any ladies in the train carriage!

After that I went to the MBK shopping mall for lunch, and I also wanted to buy some new headphones for my iPod.

MBK is a good place to go if you want to buy souvenirs or just about anything else while you're in Bangkok. There's also some good food to be had on the top floor. I'm a big fan of the burger place there that does a cheap Mr Beef meal. Plus there's a pretty good Vietnamese café there as well, serving up authentic Vietnamese favourites.

To get to MBK, just take the BTS to National Stadium - the terminal station for the Silom line. Actually you can also walk from Siam station - it's only around 10 minutes away on foot.

Most of MBK's ladyboys are to be found on the 4th floor where they mostly work in the little shops that sell electronic goods and new phone numbers for your mobile phone. Most are young and are around 21-28 years of age. Ideal dating material then.

If you see any you like, then don't be afraid to approach them! Ladyboys find it exceedingly hard to find boyfriends who want anything more than just short-time sex. Most Bangkok ladyboys seem to be single.

If you're too shy to cold approach them then use a mobile chat tool to seek them out online first then break the ice. Wechat or Skout will be good for this.

While in MBK I also saw two guys and a ladyboy who were of about high school age. That kind of got me thinking about why ladyboys decide to become ladyboys and not just regular teenage guys. Most ladyboys I've talked to say they wanted to become a ladyboy from an early age.

Anyway, it was just so cool to see two young guys hanging round with their mate who'd decided to become a ladyboy and wear girl clothes.

Later I went to another Bangkok shopping mall - Terminal 21 in Asok. This is a great place to spot high class ladyboys who have professional jobs or rich boyfriends!

I ate in the food court - just 27 baht for cashew chicken and rice. At the next table was a glamorous older ladyboy who obviously had a pretty good office based job.

If you're interested in dating ladyboys for longer term relationships, then these are the ladies you need to be seeking out!

So all in all an interesting day out and again it was just amazing to see that ladyboys are just a normal part of everyday life in Bangkok.