Better to Marry a Ladyboy Than a Woman From My Own City?

Congratulations - if you're a ladyboy lover and you live in the UK then you can now marry your ladyboy girlfriend!

So a big step forward in the cause of equal rights, as well as for transexuals' rights.

Over at ladyboy friendly dating sites like Asian Love Connections and MyLadyboyDate I've seen a surge of interest from Western guys seeking out ladyboy girlfriends/possible partners.

Why is that?

Well I'm now back in the UK and if my own experiences of OKCupid are anything to go by then I'd be better off marrying a ladyboy. I mean the average ladyboy I met in Thailand is hotter than the women who OKCupid "thinks" I might be interested in...



Nothing for me in my OKCupid matches this week.
Profiles blurred to protect the innocent - god knows in a few years women
might pass laws banning guys from marrying anyone from another country...

What's more, the ladyboys I met in Thailand tended to have a great sense of humour, and were just so much fun to be around.

I'm waiting to see just how many British dudes take up the government's offer and actually marry their transsexual partners. I'm sure your average ladyboy would look totally fabulous in a wedding dress.

But I guess a guy/ladyboy wedding will be a pretty rare sight in England. Most dudes with any sense go off to live with their ladyboy partners in somewhere like Thailand or the Philippines. If this appeals to you then check out some ladyboy-themed trip reports from Pattaya and the Phillies:

• Philippines trip reports
• Thailand trip reports

You'll also find some trip reports from China on there. China's maybe of less interest if you're exclusively into ladyboys. Chinese ladyboys would be smoking hot beyond belief, but they're just not numerous enough to make it worth visiting the People's Republic.

Actually I kind of think that one of the Chinese ladies I dated might actually have been a ladyboy. She had a husky voice, killer legs and the long flowing hair I've seen on so many Thai ladyboys. Sadly I never did find out the full story of her interesting past...

If the right one came along... would YOU marry a ladyboy? Post your opinions below.

If You Love Ladyboys, Should You Move to Asia?

Greetings Ladyboy Lovers,

In this post I'll attempt to answer the 6 million dollar question...

If you like ladyboys, are you better off moving to Asia?

I spent a good part of 2013 living in Thailand. I also spent time in China and Malaysia, and I've visited Japan and Hong Kong before.

Both Thailand and Malaysia offered great standards of living, and of course ladyboys!

So would I actually recommend living in Asia on a longer term basis?

For me the two key issues you need to address are MONEY and VISAS.

On the visas side of things, it's actually not that easy to go and live in another country. In Thailand I could only get a 30 day visa on arrival. To stay for longer I ended up getting an ED visa. That involved enrolling in a language school and pretending to study Thai. Needless to say it involved me spending plenty of money, and having the hassle of a visa run to Malaysia and back to get my papers rubber-stamped. And after that, I still had to do 90 day reporting at immigration.

It's generally easier to get long stay visas for the Philippines.

If you're an older guy then you could also look into getting a retirement visa for Thailand.

So visas are a hassle, but money talks and if you have money, you'll generally be able to find a way of staying in another country long time.

Ah, money.

MONEY is the key thing you'll need to realise your dream of living in a ladyboy haven such as Thailand.

So what are the options when it comes to MONEY?

If you're a regular guy like me, then you have two options:

1. Work in a Western country and build a warchest of savings.
2. Go and work in Asia.

If you're serious about living in Asia, then I highly recommend you live frugally in the West and save every darned penny you can. Pour money into long term investments like stocks and rental property, so you'll have an income once you make the move to Asia.

It is also possible to work in Asia. Take Thailand for example. The country has low unemployment, and a real shortage of smart people. So if you work in IT, finance, law or another "white collar" profession then you might be able to find a job out there. A friend of a friend found a decent job in Bangkok in just two weeks of looking. I also nearly found one, but they were reluctant to pay anything much more than a local salary.

The fallback is to teach English. This isn't as highly paid in Thailand as it is in China. However, it might be your best shot of finding work in Thailand.

If you like the idea of teaching English, then the best preparation you can do is to get a CELTA or TESOL qualification under your belt. You can do this in your own country, or in Thailand. An intensive course lasts 30 days, but if you do it back in your own country it's possible to find part-time courses that allow you to fit study around work.

So having addressed the financial side of things, is it actually worthwhile to live in Asia?

I was generally impressed with Thailand when I lived there. I found a nice room in central Bangkok for less than $350 a month. Food was way cheaper than at home, and there was plenty to see and do in Bangkok. One other huge advantage is that Thailand is a green and pleasant land, with way less pollution than other Asian countries like China.

I was generally impressed with Bangkok. It offers expats a great standard of living,
even if the never ending heat is hard to take at times.

Of course if you like ladyboys then Thailand is going to be your paradise on earth. When I used to get the Bangkok SkyTrain to downtown I generally saw at least one ladyboy in every carriage of the train. I'd guestimate that at least 1% of the Thai population of Bangkok are transsexuals.

I had no problem meeting ladyboys in Bangkok, although I remain to be convinced that Thailand is a good place to find a long term partner.

The Philippines is an alternative to Thailand. Things that would put me off the Philippines though are higher crime, more poverty, worse food and a harsher climate than Thailand. In its favour, it's far easier to get a visa. Philippines ladyboys are generally more petite and curvier than their Thai sisters. One other gigantic advantage is that English is much more widely spoken than it is in Thailand. My first Thai ladyboy girlfriend spoke very little English, and it was a real uphill struggle making progress with the relationship. Maybe I'd have done better in the Phillies!

Finally I must also mention Malaysia. There are plenty of ladyboys there, although being a Muslim country the transsexual dating scene is a bit more underground than it is in Thailand. Kuala Lumpur did impress me though, and it would be a fabulous place to live and work.
If you are thinking of moving to anywhere in Asia, my best piece of advice is to visit the place first. Thailand was just so much different to how I imagined it to be.

Finally, just don't go mad in Asia, particularly in Thailand. With all those hot ladyboys, bars that open 24/7, strong local beer and prostitutes on tap, it's so easy to lose your mind, your fortune and maybe even your life. I lived in central Bangkok for 6 months, with a couple of visits to Pattaya, and God knows I saw some stupid shit in those months.

With ladyboys this smoking hot, it's so easy for any guy to lose his mind in Asia...

So have your fun with ladyboys, but have some other focus in your life, like a job, or a hobby - and NO, by that I don't mean sitting in a Pattaya bar all day long!

If you've got any questions about living or working in Thailand or elsewhere in Asia, then leave your comments below...