Where are all the Chinese Ladyboys?

So I find myself back in China. God knows why. It's cold, polluted and compared to Thailand there's just nothing to do.

And to kick a man when he's down, dating in this part of China is really hard. Well if you're a foreigner that is.

4 months in and I've not had a single date. I've tried China Love Cupid but there aren't that many ladies on it from my city. We're quite near to Shanghai which ought to be a dating paradise. But Shanghai Princesses are in their own little bubble, and they're not interested in guys from the provinces.

I tried TanTan (a kind of Chinese Tinder clone) but it takes frigging ages to find anybody by flicking through 1000's of photos. Especially if you're doing it at Chinese wifi/4G speeds. Apparently I've had 42 matches which is pretty decent. But why can't it just show me who they are and stop all the time wasting?

I did make a bit of progress with one lady but she's working class, has a kid and no job. Yup, sounds great!

Another women insulted me with a "stupid foreigner" type of message.

Nice.

A cute Chinese ladyboy would really bring some much needed joy into my miserable existence...

Those long white legs would make a Chinese ladyboy an attractive proposition.

Even a biological lady would do. To find one of those I tried a Chinese local dating site called JiaYuan. Unless you know how to read some Chinese characters then this site is incredibly tough to use. Even when you can read Chinese it's still a hassle due to endless popup windows that are endemic to Chinese websites in general. And it's heavily geared towards the Chinese mindset, like asking you questions about the financial status of your parents!

As for whether there are ladyboys on the site, who knows. I guess not, at least not openly.

I've not tried real life cold approaching, but it's kind of hard when nobody speaks English and your Chinese is still pretty rubbish. Besides, that's not how geeks meet girls.

As for ladyboys in China - where the hell are they?

There ought to be a lot of ladyboys in China. I know there are plenty of gay dudes. So the balance of the gender preferences ought to be the same as in any other Asian country. Also China has another thing going for it - a vast population. One other factor to throw into the mix is that it's a lot more wealthy than Thailand or the Philippines. Maybe for that reason less guys feel the need to become transsexuals in the hope of meeting a rich guy. In fact China is home to huge numbers of rich ladies, so maybe guys are more into sugar mommy dating.

Anyway, enough rambling. I don't ever remember seeing any on China Love Cupid/Chinese Love Links. The Cupid sites aren't transgender friendly as you have to register as either a guy or a girl - even for Thai Cupid and Filipino Cupid.

I looked on MyLadyboyDate but there's only a grand total of 6 Chinese ladyboys.

LadyboyKisses isn't much better and I'm not on good terms with the owners of that one now.

With unemployment at 2% in my part of China, there ought to be plenty of opportunities for Chinese ladyboy office ladies to find work.

WeChat used to be good for random hookups. Here's my article about using WeChat in Thailand and Malaysia.

Unfortunately it's 4 years on since I wrote that post. WeChat's People Nearby function is a crock of shit now. Whenever you use it you soon get bombarded by unwelcome messages from hookers. It's about time they sorted this out. 4 years ago I met a couple of really great girls from the People Nearby thing. But all I've had this time around is spam.

I guess if you lived in a tier 1 Chinese city like Shanghai, Beijing, Guangzhou or Shenzhen then you might have more luck locating Chinese ladyboys.

But in a smaller Chinese city - forget it.

If you know how to find Chinese ladyboys then leave a comment below.

LadyboyKisses Let Me Down Again!

I'm an affiliate for LadyboyKisses. The guy hasn't paid me. Again.

Grrrrrrrr...

I don't really depend on the money, but it pays for my considerable web hosting costs.

Anyway, be careful when using LadyboyKisses because the owners are not reliable.

The good news is that the new ladyboy dating kid on the block - MyLadyboyDate - is really active now. There are over 13,000 ladyboys on the site.

You you don't need to use the ancient LadyboyKisses anymore.

Give MyLadyboyDate a try. I'm sure you'll be as impressed as I am. And I'm not just saying that because I'm an affiliate. The site's member photos are big, there's lots of choice and it's now my #1 recommendation for ladyboy online dating.

I know MyLadyboyDate is legit because I once met the owner in a London bar. We had a cider or two and talked about our love of ladyboys.

Happy dating!

Hot Fashion for Hot Ladyboys

OK so I've started an online store for ladyboys who want to look ultra hot.

I'm not sure if this is a good business idea since most of the ladyboys I've known never seem to have any money.

Well if you're dating a ladyboy then maybe you can treat them!

I may be totally misjudging them, but ladyboys seem to love this kind of outfit shown here. They seem to love sexy clothes way more than modern women do.

Anyway, enough bullshit, time for the fashion show. All items are modelled by biological women, but you have to imagine how stunning your favourite transgender girl will look in this stuff.

BTW all items on this page are for sale on the store. Orders are dispatched via AliExpress sellers from China, so if you're dating Thai or Filipino ladyboys you can directly dispatch the stuff to their country and save the long wait for the slow boat from China.

Note: Click the photos below to see more photos of that item.

Shiny Spandex Catsuit

Just the thing for the tall ladyboy in your life - a sexsational wet look catsuit:

 

I love the fact this outfit has one leg - cheeky!

 

Nipple Pasties

If your ladyboy has boobs, then she might appreciate playing around with these:

 

Maybe it's just me, but I have a huge fetish for these things. And the boobs of course.

 

Sexy Nurse/Maid Outfits

 

 

Just the thing if you've gone to Bangkok or Manila and come down with a dose of food poisoning. Get your ladyboy to nurse you back to health while wearing this. Just don't have a heart attack when she puts it on.

 

Actually I have to say that I lived in Thailand for 6 months and barely had any health problems at all. The food was fine and I was even OK after eating insects and plastic bags of little sausages bought from food stands.

 

Anyway, if you do come down with something rather more alarming, then make sure your ladyboy has this outfit:

 

 

 

More Shiny Stuff

 

 

This kind of shiny stuff (often called Zentai) is really popular in Asia. It's really sexy but also kind of OK for wearing underneath a skirt or shorts.

This particular leotard has a real high leg look reminiscent of the stuff Japanese AV race queen stars wear. Lovely stuff.

That's all for now - if you have any other suggestions for what ladyboys would look hot in then leave comments below.

The Future is Ladyboy

The popularity of ladyboys seems to know no limits. So why are they getting so popular? Here are a few theories:

• The Internet has made porn more freely available, and it's much easier for men (and maybe some women as well) to explore their sexual fantasies. So more guys are finding photos of videos of ladyboys, and realising that they have found their perfect sexual fantasy.

• Cosmetic surgery is also getting cheaper. In Thailand it costs around $1500 USD to get a pair of breast implants. That's quite a large sum of money in Thailand and the Philippines, but it's not a huge sum.

• In countries like Thailand, transgenders are a recognised part of society, even if they're not yet treated as a 3rd sex in the eyes of the government and law. While I lived in Thailand I saw many teenage ladyboys of high school age. They wore female uniforms but often had male friends. It was good to see them so accepted within their peer group. A consequence of transsexuals being recognised as such at an early age is that they can take hormones to stop their maleness from ever developing, and can thus go on to look much more feminine than previous generations of ladyboy could hope to achieve.

• The rise of feminism has enslaved a generation and guys are starting to see that it's just not worthwhile having a relationship with a biological woman. A woman can take half your assets, and of course the home you live in. Is there another way? Maybe guys can go their own way, and do without women.

• Could it be that ladyboys are just more intelligent and better fun to be with than women? I started to think that way during my own time in Thailand. I have to say that the ladyboys I met were for the most part much smarter than Thai ladies. Sometimes they were much more feminine as well.

Whatever the reason for the current popularity of ladyboys, they're not going to go away anytime soon. Anyone who doubts me, I give you the lovely Twinkle from Ladyboy Ladyboy:

The awesome Filipino ladyboy Twinkle

So why do YOU think ladyboys are becoming more popular? Post your comments below...

The Ladyboys of Southern Europe

Here's a quick report about Southern Europe, and the ladyboys I've encountered there.

Or rather, haven't.

I have to say this part of the world doesn't seem to have that many ladyboys. In over a month of living here in Barcelona, I've only seen two.

One was a well built massage girl/hooker, of the type that scares the hell out of you when you're out on the town in Walking Street, Pattaya.

Another was much more feminine and out with her mom shopping for some new lingerie. Well I'm way too beta to make a cold approach, but she was very cute!

So two ladyboys sighted in five weeks - poor showing really. That's not to say that they don't exist. After all, the Victorians claimed there were no black swans in the world...

Then some dude went to Australia.

So what does Southern Europe have to offer if you're interested in all things Asian?

In Barcelona, I've seen a large number of Chinese people. In my neighbourhood they run stores, bars and emporiums that sell all kinds of junk. There may be plenty of single Chinese women here, although most seem to already have [Chinese ] husbands. From my limited Chinese conversational skills I've managed to determine that many of the Chinese here are from the middle or North of China, from cities like Xi'an and Wuhan. Although Chinese ladyboys do exist, they're normally from the more vibrant more free thinking coastal cities like Shanghai or Shenzhen.

One thing I haven't seen many of here are Thai people, especially Thai brides. I think that Southern European men who want exotic foreign brides tend to go to South America - Colombia especially. Colombian women can be VERY hot indeed, and of course Brazil is also known for its numerous and exotic ladyboys.

Thai restaurants are also rare here, especially when compared to the UK. Chinese restaurants do exist, but around half of them cook local, rather than Chinese food.

Maybe because the local people are generally darker skinned than their Northern European neighbours that guys here are less interested in the exotic treasures of the East.

Of course all countries have their fill of men with yellow fever, and I did spot a flier for an Asian massage joint:

Translation: Oriental girls - Young and Pretty!

One bright spot is that there are more Wechat users here. However, I've not (as of yet) seen any transsexuals on it, just Chinese immigrants and tourists, and a few Southern Europeans who have somehow discovered this nice little Chinese built chat app.

I haven't tried local dating sites. To be honest I'm getting fed up with online dating sites in general. Chinese Love Cupid closed my account for some reason, my DateInAsia account disappeared without warning, and I can't seem to keep a PoF account up for more than a fortnight without the robots who run that site thinking I'm a scammer.

There is more to life of course than dating of course, and I have to report that the food and quality of life here is great. It's safe to walk around at all hours of the day, and people seem so civilised, despite the poverty and high unemployment.

Southern Europe is also blessed with - SUNSHINE!!!

It's also much easier to come and live here with or as an immigrant - something to bear in mind if you're dating Thai ladyboys and face an impossible task getting her back to the UK, Northern Europe, Australia or the USA. Plus Barcelona, Sitges and the surrounding towns are very gay friendly. While I won't call ladyboy lovers gay, it is much better to live in a gay friendly environment than somewhere you'd face hostility or even jail just for doing your own thing.

So that's Southern Europe - what's YOUR local area like for finding and dating ladyboys?

Me Need Boobs - Send Money!

We interrupt this blog to bring an urgent appeal for cash...

...my ladyboy needs boobs, and needs them fast!

So I was having a quiet night at home the other night, and suddenly my phone starts beeping at the sound of LINE instant messages accumulating.

What's up?

Well to cut a short story short, it turned out a Thai ladyboy I had once dated was urgently in need of some cash in order to get a boob job.

Why the rush?

Well Thai people live very much in the present, so I'm well used to them needing stuff, like, now. But this seemed more urgent than the usual urgent.

Now my ladyboy is one of the few Thai ladyboys who doesn't really speak much English. But from her broken English I kind of got the gist of what she was trying to tell me...

It turns out that in Thailand young "men" are drafted into the military, but there is an exemption for ladyboys. However, the Thai military have kind of wised up to young guys growing their hair long and calling themselves ladyboys. So as far as I am aware, the current definition of ladyboy is simply defined as a biological guy with a large pair of breasts.

Even being a ladyboy isn't enough to escape the draft - if there is a shortage of "guys", then any able bodied ladyboy will be drafted, whatever their chest size.

If you want a detailed look at how the Thai military draft works (and its effects on ladyboys), then have a good read of this.

Basically the draft applies to most Thai young men, although rich kids can often buy their way out of it. That leaves poor kids, and the ladyboys that you or I would normally meet in Thailand. Not everyone is drafted - what it basically comes down to is a lottery.

I feel sorry for those drafted - especially as they face the prospect of being deployed to the frontlines in Thailand's forgotten war in the far South of the country.

If you're dating or intending to date a young Thai guy or ladyboy, well the draft and possibly how to avoid it is something to think about...


Too "big" to serve? I'd like to see my ladyboy with her new boobs, but I'm not sure I need to be financing them...

Anyway, whether I would or wouldn't fund something like this, well I'd need to think about it for a few days anyway. Having done a bit of reading there's no guarantee that being a ladyboy is guaranteed to make somebody avoid the draft anyway. And if I paid for a boob job, I'd kind of feel responsible for this ladyboy's future psychological welfare. Getting gender realignment surgery is a big step, even in a country like Thailand where ladyboys are so numerous.

Also this particular ladyboy is also more of a chat buddy these days, and I really don't like getting into the business of lending money to friends (or anyone else for that matter).

Oh what the hell, I'm far too tight to give my money away, especially as I've worked so hard to earn it in the first place. I burned out of my last job, and the one before that, so I'm well aware of the price of money.

After a while it got me thinking though. Ladyboys need around 50,000 Thai baht for a boob job. That's not a huge sum in the Western world - about £950, €1200 or $1500. Maybe I should set up some sort of Kickstarter site to allow interested parties to crowd fund ladyboy boob jobs. After all, a ladyboy with a boob job has much better earning potential than one without, so the chance of getting your money back (maybe with interest or other benefits) is pretty high.

How about it?

Random Thoughts and Observations 104

It's been around 8 months since I left the Land of Smiles (i.e. Thailand) and went back to a mainstream life in the West. I got a job, and I'm reasonably happy.
But I still remember my time meeting and dating Thai ladyboys, and I'm sure as hell going back.

So what's been going on lately?

A lot of guys tell me they're interested in ladyboys, but they feel they have to be secretive about it, at least until they're ready to "come out" about it, so to speak.

But is wanting to date and maybe marry a ladyboy such a big thing? After all, in the UK guys have been able to marry other guys for at least a year now. Two biological guys can even adopt a kid in this country.

Put your ladyboy love in perspective though. In the UK a former well known male celebrity has just come out as a transsexual and is now on our TV screens in female form. Now that's a big thing to do! Of course it's attracted attention, but there's also been a lot of acceptance.

I live quite close to London, and I've seen one or two Asian ladyboys in and around the ChinaTown area of central London. Give it 10 or 20 years and transsexuals will be a much more of a common sight. When I was at school there was one black kid in our entire school, and maybe half a dozen kids of Chinese descent. Now if you walk past your average school in the UK it's like a convention of the junior United Nations.

So diversity is coming, and transsexuals will be a part of it.

One thing is clear though, ladyboys are becoming immensely popular, and sites like Asian Love Connections and MyLadyboyDate are becoming THE place to go and chat to some of the world's most exotic and beautiful creatures.

I still chat to one or two ladyboys online. The hookers bailed out a long time ago - they find it too easy to find new guys to chat to.

The sensible girls message me once in a while, but it is hard to maintain long distance friendships, especially if you have commitments back home like work and family. It's very hard to try and live in two different continents at the same time. So for this reason I always say that if you want to date Asian ladyboys (or women) then do whatever you can to save up enough cash so you can go and live there for a while.