Me Need Boobs - Send Money!

We interrupt this blog to bring an urgent appeal for cash...

...my ladyboy needs boobs, and needs them fast!

So I was having a quiet night at home the other night, and suddenly my phone starts beeping at the sound of LINE instant messages accumulating.

What's up?

Well to cut a short story short, it turned out a Thai ladyboy I had once dated was urgently in need of some cash in order to get a boob job.

Why the rush?

Well Thai people live very much in the present, so I'm well used to them needing stuff, like, now. But this seemed more urgent than the usual urgent.

Now my ladyboy is one of the few Thai ladyboys who doesn't really speak much English. But from her broken English I kind of got the gist of what she was trying to tell me...

It turns out that in Thailand young "men" are drafted into the military, but there is an exemption for ladyboys. However, the Thai military have kind of wised up to young guys growing their hair long and calling themselves ladyboys. So as far as I am aware, the current definition of ladyboy is simply defined as a biological guy with a large pair of breasts.

Even being a ladyboy isn't enough to escape the draft - if there is a shortage of "guys", then any able bodied ladyboy will be drafted, whatever their chest size.

If you want a detailed look at how the Thai military draft works (and its effects on ladyboys), then have a good read of this.

Basically the draft applies to most Thai young men, although rich kids can often buy their way out of it. That leaves poor kids, and the ladyboys that you or I would normally meet in Thailand. Not everyone is drafted - what it basically comes down to is a lottery.

I feel sorry for those drafted - especially as they face the prospect of being deployed to the frontlines in Thailand's forgotten war in the far South of the country.

If you're dating or intending to date a young Thai guy or ladyboy, well the draft and possibly how to avoid it is something to think about...


Too "big" to serve? I'd like to see my ladyboy with her new boobs, but I'm not sure I need to be financing them...

Anyway, whether I would or wouldn't fund something like this, well I'd need to think about it for a few days anyway. Having done a bit of reading there's no guarantee that being a ladyboy is guaranteed to make somebody avoid the draft anyway. And if I paid for a boob job, I'd kind of feel responsible for this ladyboy's future psychological welfare. Getting gender realignment surgery is a big step, even in a country like Thailand where ladyboys are so numerous.

Also this particular ladyboy is also more of a chat buddy these days, and I really don't like getting into the business of lending money to friends (or anyone else for that matter).

Oh what the hell, I'm far too tight to give my money away, especially as I've worked so hard to earn it in the first place. I burned out of my last job, and the one before that, so I'm well aware of the price of money.

After a while it got me thinking though. Ladyboys need around 50,000 Thai baht for a boob job. That's not a huge sum in the Western world - about £950, €1200 or $1500. Maybe I should set up some sort of Kickstarter site to allow interested parties to crowd fund ladyboy boob jobs. After all, a ladyboy with a boob job has much better earning potential than one without, so the chance of getting your money back (maybe with interest or other benefits) is pretty high.

How about it?

Random Thoughts and Observations 104

It's been around 8 months since I left the Land of Smiles (i.e. Thailand) and went back to a mainstream life in the West. I got a job, and I'm reasonably happy.
But I still remember my time meeting and dating Thai ladyboys, and I'm sure as hell going back.

So what's been going on lately?

A lot of guys tell me they're interested in ladyboys, but they feel they have to be secretive about it, at least until they're ready to "come out" about it, so to speak.

But is wanting to date and maybe marry a ladyboy such a big thing? After all, in the UK guys have been able to marry other guys for at least a year now. Two biological guys can even adopt a kid in this country.

Put your ladyboy love in perspective though. In the UK a former well known male celebrity has just come out as a transsexual and is now on our TV screens in female form. Now that's a big thing to do! Of course it's attracted attention, but there's also been a lot of acceptance.

I live quite close to London, and I've seen one or two Asian ladyboys in and around the ChinaTown area of central London. Give it 10 or 20 years and transsexuals will be a much more of a common sight. When I was at school there was one black kid in our entire school, and maybe half a dozen kids of Chinese descent. Now if you walk past your average school in the UK it's like a convention of the junior United Nations.

So diversity is coming, and transsexuals will be a part of it.

One thing is clear though, ladyboys are becoming immensely popular, and sites like Asian Love Connections and MyLadyboyDate are becoming THE place to go and chat to some of the world's most exotic and beautiful creatures.

I still chat to one or two ladyboys online. The hookers bailed out a long time ago - they find it too easy to find new guys to chat to.

The sensible girls message me once in a while, but it is hard to maintain long distance friendships, especially if you have commitments back home like work and family. It's very hard to try and live in two different continents at the same time. So for this reason I always say that if you want to date Asian ladyboys (or women) then do whatever you can to save up enough cash so you can go and live there for a while.

My Online Bride

A few nights ago I watched an interesting Channel 4 TV show about British guys seeking foreign brides. If you want to Google it, it was called My Online Bride. It's essential viewing for anyone thinking of finding an overseas partner.

While ladyboys didn't get a mention (they've had their own dedicated TV series over on Sky TV), the show has really got a lot more guys interested in seeking partners from overseas.

If you can't find the show to watch online, then the multiple take home messages were:

• YOU can find higher quality partners overseas.
• Finding a foreign bride is EXPENSIVE and you'll have to budget for around 8000 UK pounds (around $13,000).
• It's psychologically hazardous for a man to fall in love in ANY country.
• Women lie and cheat regardless of their nationality.
• To find the best partner, go and live in another country for a while (6 months+).
• To attract women, be more alpha.
• Women want to marry one-women-men. By all means travel to another country and meet several women in a single trip. But DON'T tell woman A about woman B, C, or D. DO let it be known that you ARE popular with women though, but think of ways to be more subtle about it.
• If the topic of money comes up early in the relationship, be ready to bale out. I once dated a lovely Thai girl, but her sister had designs on my bank account. This was pretty much identical to the experience one of the guys featured in the TV show had happen to him.

The TV show focussed on Ukraine and Thailand, but unlike the producers you can think outside the box and add on the Philippines (for ladyboys) and China (if you like Asian women; Chinese ladyboys are somewhat rarer).

If you've seen My Online Bride what did you think about it? Do you think going to a different country to find love is a good idea or is it truly crazy?

Thailand Photo Blog #2



In the second instalment of photos from Thailand I bring you a few photos from Pattaya. This coastal city is absolutely worth a visit if ladyboys are your thing.

 

Just don't fall in love here!

 

Pattaya is of course known for its crazy nightlife. Whole streets are full of open air bars like this one:

 

What's more, just about all the ladies (and ladyboys) in these bars are available.

In Pattaya, motorcycles can be rented for as little as $5 a day:

 

Before you saddle up, just remember Thailand's sobering traffic accident statistics.

 

Talking of being sober, you might want to down a couple of beers before impressing the local ladyboys with your love of edible insects:

 

Edible scorpions are pretty scary - and so is Pattaya's weather at times. Here's a flooded Beach Road:

 

A few inches of rain doesn't do too much to dampen the party atmosphere though. If anything, you'll get more attention in the bars and clubs on a rainy night as fair weather folk stay in and watch the TV.

 

Wish you were here...?

 

Imagine speeding off round the bay with a couple of bikini clad ladyboys to help you steer!

If you read my China photo blog #1 then you'll appreciate the language barrier a foreigner has to face in that country. In Thailand the nightlife is made much more foreigner friendly due to signs like these:

More of that neon, this time illuminating a gogo bar:

 

If you've never visited a gogo bar then add it to your bucket list of things to do.

 

Pattaya is full of gogo bars, some with ladies, some with ladyboys, and just a few with a real mixture of genders.

 

A gogo bar is a great place to stare at women without getting slapped. Just keep the money flowing out of your wallet, and you'll be guaranteed a great time in these places. Don't worry though - they're way, way, cheaper than table dancing venues you might have back in your own country.

 

Is the whole sex tourist thing an outdated concept?

 

One thing noticeable in Pattaya's walking street now are the increasing numbers of Chinese tourists.

 

They largely walk around in groups, and don't tend to go in the bars themselves:

 

 

I guess this is like some kind of sex tourism tourism.

 

Anyway, it's a reminder that the world is changing, and that going on holiday to Thailand is not something that just American, Brits or Germans do.

 

Whatever life decisions you make in Thailand, it's better to make them in the cold light of day. Then the glitzy neon bars and clubs look pretty darned ordinary:

 

Have fun when YOU next visit Pattaya!

China Random Photo Blog #1

Here are a few photos from my time spent in China.

China isn't a great place to find ladyboys to be honest. A shame really, since Chinese ladies are ultra, ultra hot, and ladyboys with Chinese genes are often the hottest of the hot. Plus foreign dudes are very popular in China.

Still, Chinese culture has a huge influence throughout Asia, so you can definitely impress your own ladyboy dates with your knowledge of all things Chinese.

Anyway, let's kick off this article with photo that looks very traditionally Chinese:

This is why Canton is nick-named Garden City. The downside is that lush, sub-tropical foliage like this signifies that it rains here. A lot.

 

People often go on holidays to Thailand and the Philippines as these developing countries have a lower cost of living than back home.

 

China is also a developing country. However, unlike Thailand and the Philippines, China has made substantial investment in first world infrastructure, like high speed express trains:

A common sight on the street of any Chinese city - crowded buses and beautiful ladies:

 

Another beautiful Chinese woman. It's also worth pointing out that Chinese ladies tend to be a lot taller than ladies from neighbouring countries like the Philippines.

 

Incidentally, this lady is ordering a bottle of bamboo juice. Not delicious!

 

So hot ladies everywhere, but if you want to impress 10's here, you'll need a nice big apartment.

Well renting a condo is easier said than done when the realtor window display looks like this:

 



 

So you won't get too far in China without an interpreter to help you on occasion.

 

Thankfully though, some Chinese characters are really easy to understand:

 

 

As are these:

Incidentally, massages are as popular as they are in Thailand, although there's much more of a language barrier than there is in Thailand or the Philippines.

Back to more mundane everyday life, and one thing I really noticed about the Chinese was their tradition of hanging their washing outside. Maybe this is why so many Chinese laundries set up shop in the USA and other countries:

Another thing you'll definitely notice in China is how much more crowded it is than anywhere else.

When you're living in amongst this many people, you'll appreciate why an authoritarian state is needed to keep things orderly...

All these people competing for jobs and resources mean that it can be hard work to be Chinese. So it's not surprising you'll see the locals catching up on well earned Zzzz's anywhere they can:

Thailand Random Photo Blog #1

Here's the first in an occasional series of randomly taken photos from Asia. If you want a ladyboy girlfriend then you'll have to go to Asia at some point. So here's what you can expect from your time in a country like Thailand...

 

Pretty ladies are everywhere in Asia! In Thailand, pretty ladies who do promotional stuff are called Pretties. Sometimes they're ladyboys, but usually they're not:



 

When you go to SE Asia, be sure to take an umbrella. Tropical thunderstorms are random and unpredictable:

In Bangkok there's another thing that's unpredictable - the traffic! Actually that's not quite true: when I was living there, the traffic was usually terrible:

 

How old is your Thai girlfriend? Really? Here on Bangkok's Khaosan Road you can buy all kinds of fake ID...

I'd just like to mention that Western dudes have been jailed as a result of the consequences of using fake documents bought in street markets.

Do you think any Thai nationals have ever been prosecuted for using fake documents? Ha ha ha, you're having a laugh!

Will you love your ladyboy long time? Most dudes I saw in Sukhumvit Soi 4 only spent 20 minutes with their new ladyboy girlfriend! But if you think the relationship has a future, then there are plenty of street stalls where you can buy a gift for the girl or ladyboy of your dreams:

 

Many guys associate Thailand with ladyboys, beaches, palm trees and Beer Chang. But one thing that surprised me on my first visit there was just how devoutly religious the local population are. For example, here's a store where you can buy a Buddhist religious statue that would really impress your friends and family (you might go over your 23Kg airline luggage allowance though)...

 

Anyway, back to ladies!

 

Thais love to dance, and if you spend any amount of time in Thailand you might be lucky to see a dance competition or two. I'm pretty sure these are ladies, but I did also see some troupes of ladyboys doing much the same...



Incidentally, if you buy your new ladyboy girlfriend a pair of killer heels like these girls are wearing, she'll be sure to love you long time!

More dancing - this time at a school sports day:

 

I have to say that the sports wasn't up to much. Like in most other countries, child obesity is reaching epidemic proportions. But I was very impressed with the dance competition held after the last of the relay races.

I did also notice that there were actually a few femboys and ladyboys amongst the pupils of this particular school. Here they were totally accepted, which was really nice to see. Back home could you ever imagine a boy turning up to school wearing a skirt?

Back to that obesity remark, and this dude might have something to do with it:

 

Probably the first thing you'll notice in Thailand is people adopting the Wai pose when they greet each other. This after all is the famous Land of Smiles.

 

Finally what the heck are you doing reading my ramblings? You should be in Pattaya, with a gorgeous ladyboy waiting for you to join her in the warm tropical seas...

 

Geek Burns Out of Dating

A year in Asia... 50+ dates... so what did I learn?

Going on dates is a lot of fun. But finding a life partner... that takes a whole lot of searching.

I'd guestimate that 20% of the dates I met would have made good life partners.

You might get lucky and find Miss 100%, but otherwise it's a bit of a trade off. Do you go for looks? Personality? Or find somebody who is a general all round "7"?

I dated some VERY attractive Asian ladies, but 9's and 10's had their own particular problems. And it troubled me that the hottest date I had in Thailand left her last boyfriend because he kept cheating on her. If she was so hot then why did he do that?

Ladies not Ladyboys?

I'd liked to have dated more ladyboys, but finding ones who were more into dating than fucking for money was not at all easy in Bangkok.

Anyway, if you do want an Asian lady or ladyboy life partner, then here are my 10 top tips:

1. Finding marriage minded ladyboys worth marrying is hard work. Harder work even than finding a Thai bride.
2. Bar ladies are best avoided - not so much because they work in a bar, but because of the backstory to their lives that have made them ending up working in a bar. Quite a few bar ladies are rather fond of Beer Chang or other substances - habits which are hard to kick. Bar ladyboys could well be a moderately safer bet, as there are far fewer opportunities for ladyboys to finance the kind of bodymods you guys want them to invest in. For example, getting a boob job will cost a ladyboy 4 months wages in an average job (assuming she saves 100% of her monthly income that is).
3. Be careful dating ladyboys (or ladies) who don't speak much English. I dated a few Asian ladies who were total psychological messes - but if you don't speak their language and they don't speak yours, how would you ever find out? Ladyboys can have major psychological issues - a result of conflicting hormones, family problems and the hardships of living in a society where ladyboys still face prejudices.
4. If somebody really likes you - they'll want to talk to you and hang out with you. Avoid anyone who doesn't often reply to your messages right away, or who is a pain in the ass when it comes to scheduling dates. Maybe they've got other guys on the go. Maybe they're just not that into you.
5. On the other hand, clingy people are to be avoided at all costs, unless you actually like them and want to see them again. Clingy ladies and ladyboys will tug at your heart strings and cause you a lot of problems down the line. My rule is that if they weren't worth a second date, I delete them from my phone and instant messaging apps. It's kinder on them as well.
6. Don't make any hasty decisions in Thailand, the Philippines or anywhere else. Jetlag and extreme heat and humidity will really cloud your judgement and it takes at least a week to acclimatise if you're flying in from Europe or the USA. God knows I talked to some delusional Western dudes while I was living in Bangkok.
7. Don't enter business or property partnerships with Asian girlfriends or prospective marriage partners.
8. It's best to avoid anyone in Asia who has a crazy ex-. For that reason, I'm wary of divorced ladies, and I don't go near anyone who is still married (there are quite a few marrieds on sites like Thai Love Links).
9. Dating can get pretty intense, so always have a side project. Don't let dating get in the way of doing man stuff.
10. Finally, don't take dating too seriously. Treat it as a lot of fun - and if you find somebody special, then so much the better.

Enjoy your own Asian lady/ladyboy dating experience!