Thailand Random Photo Blog #1

Here's the first in an occasional series of randomly taken photos from Asia. If you want a ladyboy girlfriend then you'll have to go to Asia at some point. So here's what you can expect from your time in a country like Thailand...

 

Pretty ladies are everywhere in Asia! In Thailand, pretty ladies who do promotional stuff are called Pretties. Sometimes they're ladyboys, but usually they're not:



 

When you go to SE Asia, be sure to take an umbrella. Tropical thunderstorms are random and unpredictable:

In Bangkok there's another thing that's unpredictable - the traffic! Actually that's not quite true: when I was living there, the traffic was usually terrible:

 

How old is your Thai girlfriend? Really? Here on Bangkok's Khaosan Road you can buy all kinds of fake ID...

I'd just like to mention that Western dudes have been jailed as a result of the consequences of using fake documents bought in street markets.

Do you think any Thai nationals have ever been prosecuted for using fake documents? Ha ha ha, you're having a laugh!

Will you love your ladyboy long time? Most dudes I saw in Sukhumvit Soi 4 only spent 20 minutes with their new ladyboy girlfriend! But if you think the relationship has a future, then there are plenty of street stalls where you can buy a gift for the girl or ladyboy of your dreams:

 

Many guys associate Thailand with ladyboys, beaches, palm trees and Beer Chang. But one thing that surprised me on my first visit there was just how devoutly religious the local population are. For example, here's a store where you can buy a Buddhist religious statue that would really impress your friends and family (you might go over your 23Kg airline luggage allowance though)...

 

Anyway, back to ladies!

 

Thais love to dance, and if you spend any amount of time in Thailand you might be lucky to see a dance competition or two. I'm pretty sure these are ladies, but I did also see some troupes of ladyboys doing much the same...



Incidentally, if you buy your new ladyboy girlfriend a pair of killer heels like these girls are wearing, she'll be sure to love you long time!

More dancing - this time at a school sports day:

 

I have to say that the sports wasn't up to much. Like in most other countries, child obesity is reaching epidemic proportions. But I was very impressed with the dance competition held after the last of the relay races.

I did also notice that there were actually a few femboys and ladyboys amongst the pupils of this particular school. Here they were totally accepted, which was really nice to see. Back home could you ever imagine a boy turning up to school wearing a skirt?

Back to that obesity remark, and this dude might have something to do with it:

 

Probably the first thing you'll notice in Thailand is people adopting the Wai pose when they greet each other. This after all is the famous Land of Smiles.

 

Finally what the heck are you doing reading my ramblings? You should be in Pattaya, with a gorgeous ladyboy waiting for you to join her in the warm tropical seas...

 

Geek Burns Out of Dating

A year in Asia... 50+ dates... so what did I learn?

Going on dates is a lot of fun. But finding a life partner... that takes a whole lot of searching.

I'd guestimate that 20% of the dates I met would have made good life partners.

You might get lucky and find Miss 100%, but otherwise it's a bit of a trade off. Do you go for looks? Personality? Or find somebody who is a general all round "7"?

I dated some VERY attractive Asian ladies, but 9's and 10's had their own particular problems. And it troubled me that the hottest date I had in Thailand left her last boyfriend because he kept cheating on her. If she was so hot then why did he do that?

Ladies not Ladyboys?

I'd liked to have dated more ladyboys, but finding ones who were more into dating than fucking for money was not at all easy in Bangkok.

Anyway, if you do want an Asian lady or ladyboy life partner, then here are my 10 top tips:

1. Finding marriage minded ladyboys worth marrying is hard work. Harder work even than finding a Thai bride.
2. Bar ladies are best avoided - not so much because they work in a bar, but because of the backstory to their lives that have made them ending up working in a bar. Quite a few bar ladies are rather fond of Beer Chang or other substances - habits which are hard to kick. Bar ladyboys could well be a moderately safer bet, as there are far fewer opportunities for ladyboys to finance the kind of bodymods you guys want them to invest in. For example, getting a boob job will cost a ladyboy 4 months wages in an average job (assuming she saves 100% of her monthly income that is).
3. Be careful dating ladyboys (or ladies) who don't speak much English. I dated a few Asian ladies who were total psychological messes - but if you don't speak their language and they don't speak yours, how would you ever find out? Ladyboys can have major psychological issues - a result of conflicting hormones, family problems and the hardships of living in a society where ladyboys still face prejudices.
4. If somebody really likes you - they'll want to talk to you and hang out with you. Avoid anyone who doesn't often reply to your messages right away, or who is a pain in the ass when it comes to scheduling dates. Maybe they've got other guys on the go. Maybe they're just not that into you.
5. On the other hand, clingy people are to be avoided at all costs, unless you actually like them and want to see them again. Clingy ladies and ladyboys will tug at your heart strings and cause you a lot of problems down the line. My rule is that if they weren't worth a second date, I delete them from my phone and instant messaging apps. It's kinder on them as well.
6. Don't make any hasty decisions in Thailand, the Philippines or anywhere else. Jetlag and extreme heat and humidity will really cloud your judgement and it takes at least a week to acclimatise if you're flying in from Europe or the USA. God knows I talked to some delusional Western dudes while I was living in Bangkok.
7. Don't enter business or property partnerships with Asian girlfriends or prospective marriage partners.
8. It's best to avoid anyone in Asia who has a crazy ex-. For that reason, I'm wary of divorced ladies, and I don't go near anyone who is still married (there are quite a few marrieds on sites like Thai Love Links).
9. Dating can get pretty intense, so always have a side project. Don't let dating get in the way of doing man stuff.
10. Finally, don't take dating too seriously. Treat it as a lot of fun - and if you find somebody special, then so much the better.

Enjoy your own Asian lady/ladyboy dating experience!

Test Your Ladyboy Detection Skills...

Think you're good at spotting ladyboys? Here's a lady/ladyboy quiz:

• Ladyboy or lady quiz.

Have a go, and if you do really well or really badly then add your comments below!

For the record, I scored 4 out of 6, so I failed to spot 2 ladyboys.

Having spent most of 2013 living in Asia, I must admit there were plenty of ladies who could well have been ladyboys. I just couldn't be sure at all. Better hormone therapy and cheap body mods mean that ladyboys are more feminine looking than ever these days. Plus the women at home seem to be getting less feminine!

I still think one of the Chinese women I dated was a ladyboy. I never did figure her out - but who cares because she was hot as hell!

Better to Marry a Ladyboy Than a Woman From My Own City?

Congratulations - if you're a ladyboy lover and you live in the UK then you can now marry your ladyboy girlfriend!

So a big step forward in the cause of equal rights, as well as for transexuals' rights.

Over at ladyboy friendly dating sites like Asian Love Connections and MyLadyboyDate I've seen a surge of interest from Western guys seeking out ladyboy girlfriends/possible partners.

Why is that?

Well I'm now back in the UK and if my own experiences of OKCupid are anything to go by then I'd be better off marrying a ladyboy. I mean the average ladyboy I met in Thailand is hotter than the women who OKCupid "thinks" I might be interested in...



Nothing for me in my OKCupid matches this week.
Profiles blurred to protect the innocent - god knows in a few years women
might pass laws banning guys from marrying anyone from another country...

What's more, the ladyboys I met in Thailand tended to have a great sense of humour, and were just so much fun to be around.

I'm waiting to see just how many British dudes take up the government's offer and actually marry their transsexual partners. I'm sure your average ladyboy would look totally fabulous in a wedding dress.

But I guess a guy/ladyboy wedding will be a pretty rare sight in England. Most dudes with any sense go off to live with their ladyboy partners in somewhere like Thailand or the Philippines. If this appeals to you then check out some ladyboy-themed trip reports from Pattaya and the Phillies:

• Philippines trip reports
• Thailand trip reports

You'll also find some trip reports from China on there. China's maybe of less interest if you're exclusively into ladyboys. Chinese ladyboys would be smoking hot beyond belief, but they're just not numerous enough to make it worth visiting the People's Republic.

Actually I kind of think that one of the Chinese ladies I dated might actually have been a ladyboy. She had a husky voice, killer legs and the long flowing hair I've seen on so many Thai ladyboys. Sadly I never did find out the full story of her interesting past...

If the right one came along... would YOU marry a ladyboy? Post your opinions below.

If You Love Ladyboys, Should You Move to Asia?

Greetings Ladyboy Lovers,

In this post I'll attempt to answer the 6 million dollar question...

If you like ladyboys, are you better off moving to Asia?

I spent a good part of 2013 living in Thailand. I also spent time in China and Malaysia, and I've visited Japan and Hong Kong before.

Both Thailand and Malaysia offered great standards of living, and of course ladyboys!

So would I actually recommend living in Asia on a longer term basis?

For me the two key issues you need to address are MONEY and VISAS.

On the visas side of things, it's actually not that easy to go and live in another country. In Thailand I could only get a 30 day visa on arrival. To stay for longer I ended up getting an ED visa. That involved enrolling in a language school and pretending to study Thai. Needless to say it involved me spending plenty of money, and having the hassle of a visa run to Malaysia and back to get my papers rubber-stamped. And after that, I still had to do 90 day reporting at immigration.

It's generally easier to get long stay visas for the Philippines.

If you're an older guy then you could also look into getting a retirement visa for Thailand.

So visas are a hassle, but money talks and if you have money, you'll generally be able to find a way of staying in another country long time.

Ah, money.

MONEY is the key thing you'll need to realise your dream of living in a ladyboy haven such as Thailand.

So what are the options when it comes to MONEY?

If you're a regular guy like me, then you have two options:

1. Work in a Western country and build a warchest of savings.
2. Go and work in Asia.

If you're serious about living in Asia, then I highly recommend you live frugally in the West and save every darned penny you can. Pour money into long term investments like stocks and rental property, so you'll have an income once you make the move to Asia.

It is also possible to work in Asia. Take Thailand for example. The country has low unemployment, and a real shortage of smart people. So if you work in IT, finance, law or another "white collar" profession then you might be able to find a job out there. A friend of a friend found a decent job in Bangkok in just two weeks of looking. I also nearly found one, but they were reluctant to pay anything much more than a local salary.

The fallback is to teach English. This isn't as highly paid in Thailand as it is in China. However, it might be your best shot of finding work in Thailand.

If you like the idea of teaching English, then the best preparation you can do is to get a CELTA or TESOL qualification under your belt. You can do this in your own country, or in Thailand. An intensive course lasts 30 days, but if you do it back in your own country it's possible to find part-time courses that allow you to fit study around work.

So having addressed the financial side of things, is it actually worthwhile to live in Asia?

I was generally impressed with Thailand when I lived there. I found a nice room in central Bangkok for less than $350 a month. Food was way cheaper than at home, and there was plenty to see and do in Bangkok. One other huge advantage is that Thailand is a green and pleasant land, with way less pollution than other Asian countries like China.

I was generally impressed with Bangkok. It offers expats a great standard of living,
even if the never ending heat is hard to take at times.

Of course if you like ladyboys then Thailand is going to be your paradise on earth. When I used to get the Bangkok SkyTrain to downtown I generally saw at least one ladyboy in every carriage of the train. I'd guestimate that at least 1% of the Thai population of Bangkok are transsexuals.

I had no problem meeting ladyboys in Bangkok, although I remain to be convinced that Thailand is a good place to find a long term partner.

The Philippines is an alternative to Thailand. Things that would put me off the Philippines though are higher crime, more poverty, worse food and a harsher climate than Thailand. In its favour, it's far easier to get a visa. Philippines ladyboys are generally more petite and curvier than their Thai sisters. One other gigantic advantage is that English is much more widely spoken than it is in Thailand. My first Thai ladyboy girlfriend spoke very little English, and it was a real uphill struggle making progress with the relationship. Maybe I'd have done better in the Phillies!

Finally I must also mention Malaysia. There are plenty of ladyboys there, although being a Muslim country the transsexual dating scene is a bit more underground than it is in Thailand. Kuala Lumpur did impress me though, and it would be a fabulous place to live and work.
If you are thinking of moving to anywhere in Asia, my best piece of advice is to visit the place first. Thailand was just so much different to how I imagined it to be.

Finally, just don't go mad in Asia, particularly in Thailand. With all those hot ladyboys, bars that open 24/7, strong local beer and prostitutes on tap, it's so easy to lose your mind, your fortune and maybe even your life. I lived in central Bangkok for 6 months, with a couple of visits to Pattaya, and God knows I saw some stupid shit in those months.

With ladyboys this smoking hot, it's so easy for any guy to lose his mind in Asia...

So have your fun with ladyboys, but have some other focus in your life, like a job, or a hobby - and NO, by that I don't mean sitting in a Pattaya bar all day long!

If you've got any questions about living or working in Thailand or elsewhere in Asia, then leave your comments below...

Shhhh! I'm a Ladyboy Lover...

Hi,

I'm a guy who likes ladyboys, but I'm always a little more cautious about talking about my actual dates with ladyboys than I am with my dates with women. Maybe you're the same.

So in this article I'll run through some of the privacy/secrecy issues I've encountered while dating ladyboys, and why guys like to keep their fascination for the third gender TOP SECRET.

Geekyguy about to board the fun bus to ladyboy filled Pattaya.
What went on in Thailand has to stay in Thailand -
as far as future employers, girlfriends, etc. etc. are concerned...

First of all I'll say that many men DO like ladyboys. This fact cannot be disputed. I lived in Bangkok for over six months and I spent many, many evenings people watching. One of the many things I learned from living there is that ladyboys are VERY popular. This fact is also borne out by the popularity of ladyboy porn sites, ladyboy cabaret shows, and the popularity of the Sky TV series Ladyboys that was shown in the UK (and repeated many times!).

Reputation Management

Reputation management is important these days. It's so easy to make one bad tweet, one bad Facebook post, and you can end up with egg on your face, or even a jail sentence!

So it's becoming increasingly important to be a little careful about what you do online.

The best thing to do before posting anything online is to ask:

• Would I feel comfortable showing my mom what I'm posting?

If you're not, then don't post it, or use a pseudonym.

Now I'm not particularly bothered about what people think about me. Hell, I spent more than six months living in Bangkok, so most people think I'm a sex tourist anyway. My family are OK with me befriending ladyboys. In fact thanks to that popular Sky TV series called Ladyboys, my mom kind of likes transgenders anyway!

But on the other hand I have to bear in mind that I'm applying for jobs right now, and if you're a job applicant these days, it's very likely that prospective employers will Google your name. It's happened to me twice in the last month that I've been asked in a job interview about stuff that people interviewing me have seen from searching the web.

Of course it's also possible that future girlfriends might Google my name as well. My experience has told me that the majority of women DO NOT want to marry a guy who has any interest whatsoever in ladyboys.

So unless you don't care at all what other people think about you, it's a good idea to be a little discreet when using online dating sites. In fact quite a few people think that online dating itself is weird. And that's before we get involved with Asian dating, and (shudder) Asian ladyboy dating.

Here are a few tips of dealing with reputation management:

1. First of all, don't let worlds collide. Keep your work colleagues off your Facebook, and keep your friends off your LinkedIn profile (if you have one).
2. Reputation management is easier if you have a name like Paul Smith or John Jones! Then you can hope for some security by obscurity. Sadly I have a near-unique name and I've only come across two other people in the entire world with my own particular first name/surname combination. So you'll forgive me for writing under a pseudonym.
3. Photographic facial recognition is getting good these days, and already Google has a service that can recognise celebrity photos, and Facebook can often identify which of your friends are in your photos. So be careful where you upload your photo to these days. In particular, choose a dating site that only allows logged in members to view photos. Asian Love Connections is a ladyboy dating site I helped to build. As one of the specifications I made sure that profiles of guys seeking ladyboys aren't visible to search engines or anyone who hasn't logged into the site.
4. Be careful when using Google+ or any Google services. Google has a poor approach to privacy, so whenever I search on Google I use the Private browsing Window in Firefox. I also use BoxPN's excellent and very cheap VPN service as much as I can.
5. Bear in mind that many people are very hostile towards guys who show interest in ladyboys (as well as being hostile towards ladyboys themselves). If you get problems from friends, then find new friends.

Finally as you get older, you tend to give less of a fuck what other people think about you. So don't worry.

Secrecy on Dating Sites

I help run a ladyboy dating site over at Asian Love Connections. I've noticed that around 20% of men who join upload photos of celebs, or photos with their own faces hidden, and, on occasion, photos of their cocks. In other words the guys like to hide their own identity.

On my own site I don't hesitate to ban any member who uploads a photo of a celebrity - quite apart from the copyright issues, it's just plain dishonest and not fair on the ladyboy members of the site.

I'm more lenient on people who don't upload face shots. But since the site I help run is a mainstream dating site, I ban any members uploading photos of their members (so to speak).

My own opinion is that if you're going to have a relationship with a ladyboy then you're gonna have to be just a little bit more honest with yourself, and not hide behind fake photos and blurry head shots. Ladyboys meet a whole load of jerks in their quest for long lasting love, and you can easily stand out by appearing honest and a man of integrity.

Who Cares About You?

I'm a huge worryer and I also have bouts of extreme paranoia.

So if you're the same as me, I'll point out one important thing: people generally have very little interest in you.

So don't worry about what people think about your interest in ladyboys. Chances are they're not actually thinking of you at all.

You can see this by how quickly celebs "in the news" fall out of the news and are quickly forgotten, until they're re-discovered years later working in a convenience store.

If your work colleagues do somehow find out you're a ladyboy lover then you might get one or two days of grief, but then they'll move onto ribbing somebody else about another matter. And rest assured the guys doing most of the ribbing are highly likely to go home after work and spend a good few hours downloading ladyboy porn.

You can worry even less if you're living in or visiting a "ladyboy friendly" place like Thailand or the Philippines. In Bangkok I dated a ladyboy half my age, yet in the shopping mall where we met we were practically invisible. The only time I really got noticed in Bangkok was when I dated an incredibly hot woman who was a 9 or a 10. Wow, then I did attract a fair bit of attention, but mainly from other women!

The Take Home Message

If you're interested in ladyboys then my advice is to not be in denial about your interest in them.

On the other hand, bear in mind that there is a lot of hostility out there. Not to mention that in some countries it's even illegal to have a relationship with a ladyboy.

So it's perfectly acceptable to be discreet, but just be honest with yourself.

Are you worried about somebody you know finding out about your interest in ladyboys? Leave your comments below (anonymously if you prefer)...

Geek Goes Straight Again?

For the past couple of months I've been dating Thai ladies rather than ladyboys.

Am I through with ladyboys?

Absolutely not!

The issue is that I've found it very hard to find ladyboys I want to date.

Before I'll meet a ladyboy and go on a date with her, she must:

• Look feminine.
• Be pre-op and have breasts.
• Not be too much taller than me, taking into account that I love a girl in heels.
• Not work in a bar or be any kind of hooker.
• Not work excessive hours in her job.
• Actually live somewhere I can go and meet her.

That's quite a demanding list, and if you're similarly demanding, you'll find it much easier just to meet Thai ladies.

While there are many feminine looking ladyboys in Bangkok, there's no getting away from the fact that rather more are just a man in a dress.

Some of the most convincing ladyboys in Thailand are the post-op ones. But I dunno, if you want a ladyboy who's ladylike enough to the point of having a pussy, wouldn't it just be better to date an actual lady?

The height issue has also ruled out many potential ladyboy dates for me. As a guy who's just 5' 6", I find that Bangkok's ladyboys are usually 5' 7" or taller. Factor in the obligatory pair of fabulous heels, and many of them tower over me.

This isn't just a ladyboy thing. I might have once dated a woman who was older than me, but I've NEVER dated a woman who was taller than me. It just wouldn't feel right.

And on the whole job thing, I make it clear that I'll only date ladyboys who have legitimate jobs. There are many ladyboys who work in shops and offices throughout Thailand. If you want to find some real life ladyboys then a good place to go to in Bangkok is MBK. Head for the floor where there are all the little cubicles to buy mobile phones and accessories - it's awash with ladyboy customer service assistants...

Many of MBK's ladyboys are single and are only too happy to chat to you!

By all means date a bar ladyboy or ladyboy freelancer. But be prepared for a life of chaos and probable disappointment.

If you're interested in ladyboys, would you also date Asian ladies? Leave your comments below (anonymously if you wish).